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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: December 29, 2015, 08:48:25 PM »

I have gone through hell like no one has ever gone through. I spent every penny, stopped working, and moved to Florida to fix my exBPD (THIS STATEMENT IS VERY POWERFUL TO ME). For me I had to take responsibility for what I had done in this relationship. My exBPD has used others to hurt me. The first time was when I went to jail and lost my job because he said I hit him, I threw his drug dealer out of our house. The case was dismissed and three weeks later I had to file domestic violence charges on him for threatening to kill me. Of course I gave him three more chances after this.

When we meet I got him a dog and he would not part with that dog. I tried to get him back several times because he would hit and abuse the dog. After the last incident I found out why he gave me the dog. He  was prostituting himself and selling drugs and the dog was in the way. I knew that he loved the dog but his selfishness was never going to allow unconditional love like a dog can give. He cheated on me and will not leave the small town I live in in Florida. I fear his friends and the people that he can manipulate. He is out of my life and I have a permanent restraining order on him.

It would take a book to list everything he did. He put me in jail twice on false charges. I lost jobs because of this guy. I had multiple nervous break downs.

Today I have the dog and we are doing good, he need some stability though. The poor dog has gone through as much as I have. At the first of the month I was going to file bankruptcy and loose my house. A lot of miracles happened and I should be good and will move due to a new job that will pay enough to get out of finical difficulty. Many good things happened and I am on the boarder to end all of this and get a new start. Tomorrow is a new day.
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