Sad again

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi friends, was doing really good and I started to miss her. We had been together for three years and she broke it off over a year ago. I checked her Facebook tonight and I really miss her! I know I am better off without her but I haven't been able to move on.

I feel so alone

[Joe1290]

Hi friends, was doing really good and I started to miss her. We had been together for three years and she broke it off over a year ago. I checked her Facebook tonight and I really miss her! I know I am better off without her but I haven't been able to move on.

I feel so alone

[izabellizima]

It has been 20 days for me. NC. Blocked fb and deleted phone and set email to junk so I can't come across even that.

The temptation is there and I may even have legitimate reasons to contact her (this bill keeps coming here, the net is still under her name) but you have to do something to make yourself stay away from her.

Make the list of why she sucks or something like that. I'm no expert, but I do no NC is the way to go and to me even just LOOKING at a fb page is cheating on NC.

Why did you check her fb? What triggered it this time vs other days you had not bothered?

You are not alone. We are here. I feel alone. I feel like she tore out my heart and it will never grow back and no other girl will ever look at me. I am so sorry if you too are feeling anything like this.

You were fine before her, you just need to remember who you were and who you can be again... .except you will be a higher level than you were before if you let yourself... .because you have leveled up with this experience.

[Jazzy]

Joel 1290

I can totally  understand your situation .

I saw a  picture of my ex with my replacement on FB two weeks ago( 2 months into NC  after a 6 year r/s) and it tore me to bits. It  put be several steps back in the recovery process. I know it is very difficult to resist the urge to see what they have been up to because no matter how hard we try to forget them, we miss them terribly . However, I also do realize and understand that  the only way we can heal is to stop looking at their FB posts .I am going through the toughest time in my life right now and although there are days when I long to see what is happening in my ex's life and whether he is still with my replacement, I know that the only way I can heal  is by letting go completely.That means complete NC. There are days when I seem to do okay and then there are days when I am a complete mess. The hurt and  grief will probably never go. Hopefully by cutting them off completely we will just learn to cope with the pain better.