Curious about faith

[Scopikaz]

Just curious. First was your ex pwBPD a person of faith (for me Christianity) but regardless of faith would you say they were?

Also, are you a person of faith and has the

Leaving caused you to want to grow in your faith?

Lastly, I believe In prayer so i am trying to pray for her.

I know prayer changes us as much as them. But does anyone think

Prayer will make a difference in their lives?

In my case she's hitting singles bars left and right. And I'm

Praying that she find that life unfufilling and empty.

As well as anyone not from God be removed from her life

[blackbirdsong]

Just curious. First was your ex pwBPD a person of faith (for me Christianity) but regardless of faith would you say they were?

Also, are you a person of faith and has the

Leaving caused you to want to grow in your faith?

Lastly, I believe In prayer so i am trying to pray for her.

I know prayer changes us as much as them. But does anyone think

Prayer will make a difference in their lives?

In my case she's hitting singles bars left and right. And I'm

Praying that she find that life unfufilling and empty.

As well as anyone not from God be removed from her life

We were both raised in not-so strict religious families, especially me.

I don't believe in the 'god concept' that religions define.

I don't believe in dogmatic learnings.

I don't believe in the concept of the pray, where I pray, and some higher conscious will hear this and fulfill your praying

But, just because I don't believe in it, doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.   We all have our choice to believe or not.

During my recovery I started to study Buddhism concepts. Also, not from the religion point of view, but I found the learning, background philosophy  and meditation especially useful for me in this period of my life.  But I guess you can find in every religion something that is good and useful for your emotional state.

[Holm]

I am a person of faith as well. I do think that praying for her will make a difference somewhere somehow. I would surely encourage you to keep praying. Yet at the same time, keep in mind there is such a thing as free will and at the end of the day, she must decide to obey that inner voice inside. But yeah, keep praying... .

[GreenEyedMonster]

My exBPD, in typical BPD fashion, has tried on about every religion there is and concluded to choose a little bit of all of them.  That stable sense of self thing.

I am not part of organized religion, though my beliefs tend toward a mix of Judeo-Christian and Eastern philosophy.  I believe VERY strongly in forgiveness, and I have forgiven my ex for what he has done to me.  I wouldn't mind telling him this if it came up.  However, that doesn't mean I'd stick my head back in the guillotine.

[homefree]

Faith was just another mask she would wear to portray the image she wanted.

She would rarely, if ever mention religion to me except when she was trying to push me away since the sex was 'bothering her conscience'. Then she would try dating others and if that didn't work, she would forget all about it and go back to having sex with me.

It bothered her when it was convenient, but it wouldn't bother her at all when she wanted sex. She even told me it didn't bother her at all over text while she was working (she works at a church)

Her personalities seem to be dis-integrated, and maybe one of them does actually believe and want to be a good Christian, but other personalities couldn't care less about it. It was confusing for me, but at this point I have a hard time taking that side of her seriously. Although in fairness I have a hard time really believing anything she might say at this point.

So who knows.

[MakingMyWay]

My ex was raised in a very strict Catholic family. Religion was used against her constantly by her abusive mother. If she had been anything but Catholic she would have been kicked out of the house for sure, but she still maintained that she was religious, which I respected. She didn't really mind that I was atheist, but it was a real no go zone with her and caused her to shut down. I was pretty non-hostile about it. Even if I had genuine questions about what she believed, she was defensive. It caused a lot of tension between me and her family, since I am openly Atheist.

She used it a lot as a way of feeling like a good person. Her grandmother who was very important to her passed away early in our relationship. Even though I never met her, she told me that her grandmother was her role model and a good person who was deeply religious. This cemented her faith, as it made her feel good despite everything else.