Rick Reynolds and the BPD Relationship Blueprint? Any thoughts?

[Concerns]

Hi, All. Have any of you tried this? As I have been scouring information, I ran across this and I wondered if anyone has actually used this and if it has valuable information that's worth the money... .

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[AndrewS]

It was OK but not great. I wouldn't spend money on it. It is all purely his opinion which of course he is entitled to but I prefer a more science and evidence based source.

[Infern0]

His information has some value to it, it teaches to work on yourself, be the best version of you, be the most attractive version of you, don't be needy etc.

All of this is fine in principle and it will help in ATTRACTING your BPD, so it's more useful in situations where you have been devalued. If you can make your BPD attracted to you again, you can trigger re-idealisation.

All of this kind of material can help in getting them to come back, corey wayne's material i used and i got mine back, but what it does not address is that when you have them back, THEY still have all their issues, and those issues generally make the relationship unsustainable.

This sort of stuff can help somewhat but it'll only give mild improvement at best.

[Mikey26]

He's right. We might not like to admit it, but he's great. It's not easy - at all. And that guy must be specially strong. Looks simple: if you're OK with yourself you wouldn't care this much. I think I couldn't have pulled it off. I was downright codependent, a veritable nice guy. But I take my hat off to him: he says 'YOU have a problem; she's not the only crazy person in the relationship." Right. I'm making strenuous efforts to fix myself. Doing all I can: treatment, trip on my own, gym, hobbies, etc.
What I'd love to ask him is, what if you reach an age together, you fall ill... .how would she react? It's great to be able to keep them loving you, but will they ever be able to be there for you when you are vulnerable? Among other ones. In the best moment of my relationship my mom had an accident and she was supportive on that day. But on the following day she gave sheer s... t. I was strong at that time, things were great. So what the heck? Someone told me 'you can never be the victim: SHE is, no matter what. This Rick guy is so strong he has fun out of them. But I MUST admit I had a problem.
Yeah, it'll be tough for them. Even harder. Because they'll date insecure guys like me. For guys who are truly OK with themselves WON'T date them. They'll have sex with them but will never put up with the whole thing. So they will never fill their void.
It's been 2 months NC. Thought I'd won a tiny battle last month on holiday. Got back to work where I met her (she quit before we broke up luckily): devastating. I hate myself since I keep brooding and blubbering and trying to work out my PTSD when it's obvious she's not sad or miss me at all. Where's my pride? Stupid me.