Ghetto Gal; I could use some advice concerning a not-self-sufficient woman.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hello,

Thanks for taking the time to read this and possibly offer feedback if you have something to say.

I've been on and off with an old friend for a few years now. We mostly maintain a friendship; yet we occasionally sleep together also.

Here is the dilemma. It would probably be in my best interest to quit sleeping with her. When we do, I feel sort of tied to her situation.

Her situation: She is a Mom with two kids. She doesn't work. She has a beautiful home in a nice neighborhood that she does not take care of. You go inside and it's like you've been teleported out of the nice neighborhood and into a ghetto. It's trashed. It looks like junk. And, she doesn't work; and she doesn't take care of it. I've known her children for a few years also; they are becoming brats as they get older -constantly screaming and hitting, not taking care of anything, and being generally disagreeable (because of their Mom's ways).

As I said before, it's probably in my best interest to quit sleeping with her. Because, it ties me to feeling responsible for her situation. I start to feel the weight of her world. However, it's not so easy, because she has her sweet side, and in a way, I love her. So, I am sort of confused about how to handle this. I think I'm afraid that I'll regret walking away; simply because on some level I do love her.

Once again, thanks for taking the time to read this and possibly offer feedback if you have something to say.

[Circle]

Hello,

Thanks for taking the time to read this and possibly offer feedback if you have something to say.

I've been on and off with an old friend for a few years now. We mostly maintain a friendship; yet we occasionally sleep together also.

Here is the dilemma. It would probably be in my best interest to quit sleeping with her. When we do, I feel sort of tied to her situation.

Her situation: She is a Mom with two kids. She doesn't work. She has a beautiful home in a nice neighborhood that she does not take care of. You go inside and it's like you've been teleported out of the nice neighborhood and into a ghetto. It's trashed. It looks like junk. And, she doesn't work; and she doesn't take care of it. I've known her children for a few years also; they are becoming brats as they get older -constantly screaming and hitting, not taking care of anything, and being generally disagreeable (because of their Mom's ways).

As I said before, it's probably in my best interest to quit sleeping with her. Because, it ties me to feeling responsible for her situation. I start to feel the weight of her world. However, it's not so easy, because she has her sweet side, and in a way, I love her. So, I am sort of confused about how to handle this. I think I'm afraid that I'll regret walking away; simply because on some level I do love her.

Once again, thanks for taking the time to read this and possibly offer feedback if you have something to say.

[Circle]

By the way; it is relevant that she is diagnosed with BPD.