hey TantricSpirit and
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im glad you found us. we understand how volatile these relationships can be and im confident many members here can relate to your story. i saw a lot less of my ex in our last nine months as well; somehow it seemed we fought even more
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to answer your question, i agree with your conclusion that focusing on detachment is a more productive course for you. it seems to me you have said your piece. hopefully you have planted a seed. sadly, the outcome is not really under our control. the choice is yours, of course.