divorce/her next target

[cootkilla]

so we are separated, she has no friends, doesn know any men that I know of or can even imagine, she never cheated on me, doesn't work- stayed at home basically for last 10yrs, doesn't trust anybody and fears everything, fits the hermit, my question, with the custody agreement, neither of us can have overnight opposite sex partners spend the night, How does a person with bp move on to the next target if they cant totally give them selves to them and move in with them like she did me  ?  She still talks to her mom 10x a day - maybe that becomes her source?

I guess, I'm asking somebody to forecast my future and tell me when I have to face the pain of seeing her with another man. (vomit, dagger behind the eye)

[tryingsome]

Are we sure she is BPD? Lack of friends or other people in the wings seems a bit strange I never knew a BPD to be a hermit.

But as finding her next target. How did you two meet?

I would expect something similar. I don't think they are overly original people.

[vortex of confusion]

Are we sure she is BPD? Lack of friends or other people in the wings seems a bit strange I never knew a BPD to be a hermit.

There are several different types of BPD. Here is a thread on it: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61982.0

Hermit and waif are on the list.

I don't think anybody can predict the future. A better question to as yourself, cootkilla, is, "Why do I care so much about what she does next?"

Why are you so concerned about her next target?

[tryingsome]

Personally I think the subtypes are a bunch of hogwash.

There is little point or benefit in making subtypes except to vilanize people

[cootkilla]

Because I still can't seem to let go, despite the misery, I know I have to

Thinking of her with someone else is painful

[cootkilla]

Also should say she makes friends easily and quickly just cuts them all out soon cause of distortions, I have been in the middle for years.  She would say she has friends but I say no because I hear all the crap she attributes to what they said vs what they prob actually said

Anyway that and a million other things,