break up

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I recently broke up with a guy who has BPD we were taking things slowly as we'd agreed upon together before we began but then I very foolishly (as it turns out) listened to someone who I thought was a friend she claimed he'd told her (she lied) that things were moving too slowly and he wasn't sure I really wanted him so against my instincts I took her advice and pushed hard in fact it pushed him into ending things I just managed to salvage our original friendship I've since found out she was manipulating us both and playing us off against each other so that we wouldn't be together. Also thanks to her he was homeless but he wouldn't stay at mine because she convinced him he'd be taking advantage but in a few days he was meant to be moving into a flat in the same town as me but out of the blue today he gets a phonecall saying he can have a room in a house near her one he'd already been turned down for which is miles away from me. She also prevented us getting together a year ago by making a move on him she now doesn't want him but she doesn't want him to be with me during the cold weather when he was seeing me she wouldn't let him sleep on her settee but now it's over between us she's more than happy to let him she's also encouraging him to spend time with one of his ex's when she never did before. He doesn't know that she caused trouble and at the moment I'm unable to tell him without coming off as the jealous ex. I do love him very much and I know he still has very strong feelings for me how do I get him back without driving further away in the process. I do hope very much someone can help me as I desperately need help with this and I don't know how to put things back together with him can someone please help me   

[Hedgeh0g]

I recently broke up with a guy who has BPD we were taking things slowly as we'd agreed upon together before we began but then I very foolishly (as it turns out) listened to someone who I thought was a friend she claimed he'd told her (she lied) that things were moving too slowly and he wasn't sure I really wanted him so against my instincts I took her advice and pushed hard in fact it pushed him into ending things I just managed to salvage our original friendship I've since found out she was manipulating us both and playing us off against each other so that we wouldn't be together. Also thanks to her he was homeless but he wouldn't stay at mine because she convinced him he'd be taking advantage but in a few days he was meant to be moving into a flat in the same town as me but out of the blue today he gets a phonecall saying he can have a room in a house near her one he'd already been turned down for which is miles away from me. She also prevented us getting together a year ago by making a move on him she now doesn't want him but she doesn't want him to be with me during the cold weather when he was seeing me she wouldn't let him sleep on her settee but now it's over between us she's more than happy to let him she's also encouraging him to spend time with one of his ex's when she never did before. He doesn't know that she caused trouble and at the moment I'm unable to tell him without coming off as the jealous ex. I do love him very much and I know he still has very strong feelings for me how do I get him back without driving further away in the process. I do hope very much someone can help me as I desperately need help with this and I don't know how to put things back together with him can someone please help me   

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[Hedgeh0g]

I recently broke up with a guy who has BPD we were taking things slowly as we'd agreed upon together before we began but then I very foolishly (as it turns out) listened to someone who I thought was a friend she claimed he'd told her (she lied) that things were moving too slowly and he wasn't sure I really wanted him so against my instincts I took her advice and pushed hard in fact it pushed him into ending things I just managed to salvage our original friendship I've since found out she was manipulating us both and playing us off against each other so that we wouldn't be together. Also thanks to her he was homeless but he wouldn't stay at mine because she convinced him he'd be taking advantage but in a few days he was meant to be moving into a flat in the same town as me but out of the blue today he gets a phonecall saying he can have a room in a house near her one he'd already been turned down for which is miles away from me. She also prevented us getting together a year ago by making a move on him she now doesn't want him but she doesn't want him to be with me during the cold weather when he was seeing me she wouldn't let him sleep on her settee but now it's over between us she's more than happy to let him she's also encouraging him to spend time with one of his ex's when she never did before. He doesn't know that she caused trouble and at the moment I'm unable to tell him without coming off as the jealous ex. I do love him very much and I know he still has very strong feelings for me how do I get him back without driving further away in the process. I do hope very much someone can help me as I desperately need help with this and I don't know how to put things back together with him can someone please help me as I'm not well myself and this situation is making my own illness worse and without some help and advice I don't know what to do for the best