The madness continues

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Broke up with BPDexgf 3 months ago after 6 years. Constant rages, dyllusional jeolousy, insecurity and trust issues. She backed out of ivf procedure day before and broke engagement. Ive remained lc/nc since. In October her 13 year old sustained what i would call at best an attention seeking " concussion" playing basketball and missed 19 days of school.

3 weeks ago i retired from being a police officer and moved to florida. My BPD ex does not know i've moved. She has continued her meaningless texts daily usually about the weather. Last week she started texting her son was having headaches and chest pains. After 2 doctors visits and 3 emergency room visits nothing showed up. Yesterday she texts me she s leaving work her son is at nurses office with chest pains and severe headache. Having been a paramedic for 29 years i find it suspect that a child is in the nurses office with chest pains and no ambulance is called seeing the liability. She texts me she s leaving work to get him and take him to dr 's office. Her time frame of texts don't add up and tells me she has to take him for bloodwork after dr found nothing wrong. What dr's office doesn't draw bloods there? I ask what does he need bloodwork for she replies a virus? Really! I ask about an mri or ct scan and she says he doesnt fir criteria. Really, a kid with 5 day's of headaches is not sent for a ct scan? I call bulls--t. I know she s lying but let it go.

This morning i get a text why i didn't check on her son who she has told me she could never let me see again. I reply i'm sorry, lexi is having a procedure and i've been tied up at the hospital. She fly's completelly into an uncontrolled rage and ranting about my ex wife. Same rage as one week before the breakup. Now i'm 1200 miles away from her. In 3 month's she has not tried to reconcile or admit any wring doing. Her rage was again im a piece of s--t and sc-mbag because i didn't check on her son and i'm selfish. Yes, it was a test to see her reaction and as expected she acted exactly as i expected. 3 months out of this relationship and she still feels she can rage. I told her after today do not contact me under any circumstances or i will file a harrassment complaint.

[Lexisdad]

Broke up with BPDexgf 3 months ago after 6 years. Constant rages, dyllusional jeolousy, insecurity and trust issues. She backed out of ivf procedure day before and broke engagement. Ive remained lc/nc since. In October her 13 year old sustained what i would call at best an attention seeking " concussion" playing basketball and missed 19 days of school.

3 weeks ago i retired from being a police officer and moved to florida. My BPD ex does not know i've moved. She has continued her meaningless texts daily usually about the weather. Last week she started texting her son was having headaches and chest pains. After 2 doctors visits and 3 emergency room visits nothing showed up. Yesterday she texts me she s leaving work her son is at nurses office with chest pains and severe headache. Having been a paramedic for 29 years i find it suspect that a child is in the nurses office with chest pains and no ambulance is called seeing the liability. She texts me she s leaving work to get him and take him to dr 's office. Her time frame of texts don't add up and tells me she has to take him for bloodwork after dr found nothing wrong. What dr's office doesn't draw bloods there? I ask what does he need bloodwork for she replies a virus? Really! I ask about an mri or ct scan and she says he doesnt fir criteria. Really, a kid with 5 day's of headaches is not sent for a ct scan? I call bulls--t. I know she s lying but let it go.

This morning i get a text why i didn't check on her son who she has told me she could never let me see again. I reply i'm sorry, lexi is having a procedure and i've been tied up at the hospital. She fly's completelly into an uncontrolled rage and ranting about my ex wife. Same rage as one week before the breakup. Now i'm 1200 miles away from her. In 3 month's she has not tried to reconcile or admit any wring doing. Her rage was again im a piece of s--t and sc-mbag because i didn't check on her son and i'm selfish. Yes, it was a test to see her reaction and as expected she acted exactly as i expected. 3 months out of this relationship and she still feels she can rage. I told her after today do not contact me under any circumstances or i will file a harrassment complaint.

[Anez]

Man, she sounds like a piece of work.

That's great that you've retired to florida and didn't tell her.

I suggest you now call up her contact on your phone and with a big smile on your face select "Block this caller."

and then live happily ever after in florida.

[Lexisdad]

Anez,

Piece of work to say the least. This woman is about as close to a 10 on the looks scale as you can get. She did some job on my head no doubt but at this point theres no going back. Theres not a thing i need to talk to her about nor does she. I have 3 tv's and an i phone to get the weather on and really could care less what her weather is there. On sunday she went to her nieces birthday party and felt the need to send a pic of her and her two nieces to me. This is one high punctiining pwBPD but she "ll never change. I ve been hitting the gym for twice a day workouts have dropped about 40 pounds in 3 month's and today at the pool some 32 year old starts a convo and ask"s my age. When i tell her 49 she tells me i thought you were 40!  This emotional vampire is quickly now after 3 month's becoming somebody i used to know. Friday i head to daytona beach for bike week and if she decides she wants to stir the pot i'm sure i can take a few pics to send her to twist her cap. Ive got my peace, getting my sanity back and nothing but time on my hands while she deals with raising her son. It took a while but i'm almost me again. Her actions and rage toward me today reaffirmed exactly why this went no where. You keep calling someone the names you did me and i certainly do not condone any kind of physical violence but the wrong man may certainly act differently than i did. Every action has a reaction.

[Beacher]

Block, block block

[Anez]

Yea it doesn't sound like she's adding anything positive to your life. Is there a reason why you're not blocking her? I'd want to stop all that hurtful stuff from coming through.

My ex isn't blocked. she's just silent.

[Lexisdad]

There was always that glimmer of hope i held onto where she would say i"ll do the therapy and try and work this out. 6 years was a long time to throw away. 

[Anez]

I totally get that, Lexisdad. Do what's best for you. Sounds like you're getting to a good place where you can shake her texts off. You're a good man, don't let her get you down.

and have fun at bike week!