what do I make of this?

[whitebackatcha]

Long distance gfBPD told me last night that she would be unable to talk to me today. When I asked why, she said she didn't want it to be a "thing," and was unwilling to discuss it. She said she told me in advance, and told me it wasn't anything I had done wrong, like I asked her to do with such things, and if I insisted on knowing anyway, I was "battering her into telling me." I told her the whole thing was very upsetting, and freaked me out, she asked me if I wanted space. I told her goodnight, because there wasn't anything left to be said.

I can't think of any normal reason why a person in a long-term relationship would do this. I have zero issue with her being busy, but this wasn't just that she would be busy and not around much. This was choosing zero contact, and declining to tell me why.

I fully believe that if she were cheating, she would end up confessing, so that isn't what I am concerned about. I just really don't like secrets, and can't understand why she would willfully choose this type of action at all.

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[Chilibean13]

I would try not to read too much into it. It sounds like maybe she just needs a day to herself. Was she upset before she asked for this time off? Were you arguing? Most likely if you push the issue with her she will get angry but if you allow her the privacy, hopefully she will tell you in time what was going on.