A question

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

We are going to mediation.  Two down, one to go. We have agreed a week on week off arrangement,  with set times to ring on Tuesday and Thursday.  She has missed the last two phone calls, including last night. My daughter is ill with a fever, off school,  but she's ok. It's my week to have them. She didn't ring them in her alloted time yesterday. She now wants to ring the kids later today. Should I let her? My feeling is no, as she didn't ring yesterday... but I'm not sure if this is worth making a stand... .What suggestions do any of you have? Of note, at mediation on Monday she told me she had stopped giving my son’s asthma medication months ago... .but never bothered to tell me.

[SES]

We are going to mediation.  Two down, one to go. We have agreed a week on week off arrangement,  with set times to ring on Tuesday and Thursday.  She has missed the last two phone calls, including last night. My daughter is ill with a fever, off school,  but she's ok. It's my week to have them. She didn't ring them in her alloted time yesterday. She now wants to ring the kids later today. Should I let her? My feeling is no, as she didn't ring yesterday... but I'm not sure if this is worth making a stand... .What suggestions do any of you have? Of note, at mediation on Monday she told me she had stopped giving my son’s asthma medication months ago... .but never bothered to tell me.

[Thunderstruck]

We are typically pretty generous with calls. We have SD call uBPDbm nightly when she is with us. If uBPDbm doesn't answer then we send her a message giving her another chance before bedtime. Occasionally (if SD asks) we will do a phone call in the morning or at another time if uBPDbm hasn't answered.

This works for us, because their calls are typically short and relatively non-intrusive of our parenting time. uBPDbm doesn't try to call or message excessively and interrupt our time with SD (if that were the case, it would be a different story).

[SES]

Thanks Thunderstruck... .I appreciate it.

I decided to call her instead so she could speak to them. I don't talk to her. At least it was a time convenient for me. I really struggle with her due to the history. I kind of figured this wasn't the battle to choose.  Plus, she hasn't been too bad since xmas, although still bad.  It would be preferable to keep it that way.