When they come crawling back

[klacey3]

It has been about 8 months since the break up now. I have not seen him since we have broken up. He continued to contact me (with me ignoring the majority of his messages) but from December to last week I hadn't heard anything.

Last week I started getting messages from him saying he loves me etc and can't and won't move on, and has been trying to convince me to give him another chance. He admitted to seeing someone briefly for a couple of months but ended it recently. Then yesterday it comes out that he is actually in an official relationship right now with this girl, which is even stated on facebook. He says to me how she doesn't mean anything to him, he wants an excuse to take the relationship off facebook, that she isn't a proper girlfriend (yeah right), apparently she knows nothing about me or his contact and feelings for me.

He had told me when we were together that he he rarely ever gets into relationships and when he does and puts it on facebook it means a lot, and how he would definetly never get into a relationship if he was interested in anyone else. It really makes me wonder what sort of things he did behind my back when I was with him that I didn't know about...

Anyway I am currently feeling relieved that I got away from him when I did. He is still the same person: uses people, lies, misinformation, emotional betrayal etc.

For anyone that is struggling... just remember they will treat the next person the same as they did you, they cannot be trusted.

[hopealways]

Thanks for the update, I needed this reminder. Hang in there.

[zeus123]

Good for you because you have ignored the majority of his messages, i wish you have ignored all of his messages. People with BPD suck the marrow out of your bones until you are destroyed, stay away as much as you can stay with NO CONTACT!

[lovenature]

Always look at their actions; anyone can say anything, it's what you do that matters.

[Isa_lala]

8 months and he is still contacting you? WOW

I just broke-up and I know that it would be a long run, but I hope my ex will give up before that!

How do you feel? How do you manage not responding to his messages? Advice for me? :-)

[HarleypsychRN]

So what is it about the "recycle" phenomenon anyway?

[once removed]

So what is it about the "recycle" phenomenon anyway?

this may help: PERSPECTIVES: Relationship recycling [romantic partners]