One positive thing

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

We're always focused on the negatives and yes they are there. But one positive thing I have noticed is how much more time I have. Now I'm wasting a lot of it churning thoughts in my head, but I have a lot more. So now it's up to me to use the time better, but when I do, I'll have so much free time and head space available.

I'm looking forward to that.

It just struck me how much time I spent fixing things I didn't break, worrying if this really was the last time, wondering whether she was being honest and figuring out what I did wrong this time... .

[Frustratedbloke]

We're always focused on the negatives and yes they are there. But one positive thing I have noticed is how much more time I have. Now I'm wasting a lot of it churning thoughts in my head, but I have a lot more. So now it's up to me to use the time better, but when I do, I'll have so much free time and head space available.

I'm looking forward to that.

It just struck me how much time I spent fixing things I didn't break, worrying if this really was the last time, wondering whether she was being honest and figuring out what I did wrong this time... .

[MapleBob]

It just struck me how much time I spent fixing things I didn't break, worrying if this really was the last time, wondering whether she was being honest and figuring out what I did wrong this time... .

Thank you for THAT! I'm going to keep that phrase in my head, along with "building bridges just to watch them burn". 

[Bigmd]

I agree . The last 8 months of my relationship was filled with her perceived arguments and me spending time in silent treatment trying to figure out what I was doing wrong and how to fix it. I was buying relationship books because I thought something was wrong with me. Going places and to family functions alone because she wasnt talking to me. She was telling me I needed to step up in the relationship and take charge. I didn't realize till after it wasnt me with the problem.