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Im not sure how to help and cope with my bf when his BPD acts up. it could be the smallest thing that could set him off and i didnt do anything wrong and it hurts when he gives out to me then next minute acts normal like it didnt happen. its so hard not having anyone that i can talk to about it that understands coz everyone just says leave him its too much stress and work.
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Hi Shorty93,
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A relationship with a partner who exhibits traits of BPD is something only a person who's experienced it can really understand. My friends are symathetic, but only one really gets it, having had the experience.
What kinds of things set him off?
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You are not alone, you will find many here who live your life.
Trying to convince, or seek empathy, those who live from within is mostly futile to the point of actually invaliding you and increasing your sense of being trapped in insecurities.
There is much that can be done to help you not take on the damage you feel is being done to you.
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Anything at all can set him off, if I say I can't Skype his mood can change instantly or other small things like that and then an argument starts and he he just says everything that I do that is wrong or make it sound like I don't do anything at all. I've had exams recently and the day before he started an argument with me making me feel absolutely terrible and that I'm not good enough. I cry on a daily basis with how overwhelmed I am.
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