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Author Topic: It was never my fault.  (Read 493 times)
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« on: March 28, 2016, 10:29:59 PM »

I stumbled across this by accident, and I can't say how much its helped me to understand that nothing he did was my fault. And I felt like it was always my fault that I was to blame, he blamed me so often for it, but I only wish I knew what he was going through, and i wish when I mattered to him, when I didn't become this bad omen in his life that I could've helped him.

But I can't move on without knowing if he's okay. I need to know if he's okay because he's in such a fragile state, But I know if i do that it will trigger things, and I know he's better off without me in his life. And I miss him, with all my heart I miss the good person he was. But now I can only think was it an exaggeration that he loved me because of this disorder? Was it all a lie?
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« Reply #1 on: March 28, 2016, 10:53:58 PM »

You should send him a friendly message if you're worried about him.
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« Reply #2 on: March 29, 2016, 09:09:41 AM »

Hello  

Was any of it real?  :)id (s)he ever love me?  Was it all a lie?

These are some of the most frequently asked questions following a breakup with a borderline.  Most people are so deep in the FOG (Fear-Obligation-Guilt) they still feel responsible for their ex-partner.  

The hardest thing you will face now is finding a way to accept what has happened, who he is and giving yourself the closure he cannot provide.  It will be tough, I know all to well, but we are here to help you through this and help you find something positive you can take away with you moving forward.  

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