Police threats from ex-udBPDgf

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Afternoon all,

Have any of you fellow victims of abusive relationships, experienced problems with the BPD sufferer involving the Police for the slightest matters, social services and other authorities?

My ex-udBPDgf saw one of her earlier boyfriends jailed for 7 years for apparently "trying to kill her" (now I see why he would!)... .and last year we had a drunken domestic row, where she punched herself in the eyes and claimed I assaulted her. I ended up spending the night in a cell, before she didn't press charges and the police took no further action. She of course brought this up that "I beat her up" during every disagreement from that moment on. Because our children were present, we then had the social services on our case for 6 mths checking our ability to be parents. We finally got the all clear in January. Since then things have been a trail of destruction... .

2 weeks ago, she walked out after I told her to leave following her admission that she had been talking to and meeting a male work colleague, and had kissed him. She rang the police claiming I was forcing her out and had pushed her (Another complete fabrication!). I spoke to the police myself, who said that I hadn't done anything wrong but because she had involved police it would have to be registered with social services again.

She then claimed that she was homeless as a result of domestic violence, so has been put up in a women's refuge since the Saturday before last, while I have had our 3 yo son.

She has been making threats that the police will escort her to get her stuff, to which I have said there's no need and if she tells me when she is coming I will leave it all in the conservatory for her to easily get to.

Today, the threats continued and apparently I am keeping her from seeing her son (even though she agreed that I should have him until she is in a permanent home). I have sent her about 7 emails since last night asking if she was coming to collect her stuff today, all without response so naturally I didn't unlock the conservatory for security reasons.

Suddenly at 3pm I receive an email from her claiming she is at my house with the police, asking why I am not letting her in (I am at work 8 miles away!). The police rang my Mother who has agreed to go and let them in later this evening.

She sends me emails asking me to be amicable, which I have been with my sole focus being access to our son, and caring for his welfare yet all I get back is threats.

She has also played this poor, victim of domestic violence and the police seem to be believeing her and pandering to her. I have printed emails of her threats and my amicable requests for my Mother to show to the police tonight.

I have never ever witness anything as crazy, and as much as I am struggling with ruminating over her, the way she is behaving is helping me turn my pining for her into pure hatred.

Anyone else had police issues?

[CC85]

Afternoon all,

Have any of you fellow victims of abusive relationships, experienced problems with the BPD sufferer involving the Police for the slightest matters, social services and other authorities?

My ex-udBPDgf saw one of her earlier boyfriends jailed for 7 years for apparently "trying to kill her" (now I see why he would!)... .and last year we had a drunken domestic row, where she punched herself in the eyes and claimed I assaulted her. I ended up spending the night in a cell, before she didn't press charges and the police took no further action. She of course brought this up that "I beat her up" during every disagreement from that moment on. Because our children were present, we then had the social services on our case for 6 mths checking our ability to be parents. We finally got the all clear in January. Since then things have been a trail of destruction... .

2 weeks ago, she walked out after I told her to leave following her admission that she had been talking to and meeting a male work colleague, and had kissed him. She rang the police claiming I was forcing her out and had pushed her (Another complete fabrication!). I spoke to the police myself, who said that I hadn't done anything wrong but because she had involved police it would have to be registered with social services again.

She then claimed that she was homeless as a result of domestic violence, so has been put up in a women's refuge since the Saturday before last, while I have had our 3 yo son.

She has been making threats that the police will escort her to get her stuff, to which I have said there's no need and if she tells me when she is coming I will leave it all in the conservatory for her to easily get to.

Today, the threats continued and apparently I am keeping her from seeing her son (even though she agreed that I should have him until she is in a permanent home). I have sent her about 7 emails since last night asking if she was coming to collect her stuff today, all without response so naturally I didn't unlock the conservatory for security reasons.

Suddenly at 3pm I receive an email from her claiming she is at my house with the police, asking why I am not letting her in (I am at work 8 miles away!). The police rang my Mother who has agreed to go and let them in later this evening.

She sends me emails asking me to be amicable, which I have been with my sole focus being access to our son, and caring for his welfare yet all I get back is threats.

She has also played this poor, victim of domestic violence and the police seem to be believeing her and pandering to her. I have printed emails of her threats and my amicable requests for my Mother to show to the police tonight.

I have never ever witness anything as crazy, and as much as I am struggling with ruminating over her, the way she is behaving is helping me turn my pining for her into pure hatred.

Anyone else had police issues?

[JerryRG]

Lol, I'm sorry for laughing but when you said

My ex-udBPDgf saw one of her earlier boyfriends jailed for 7 years for apparently "trying to kill her" (now I see why he would!)...

I have had this line of thinking myself.

Anyway yes indeed my exBPDgf was this way... .

The first event?

She asked me to squeeze her arm one night to see how strong I was, a few days later she showed me tiny bruies on her wrist and said she could show them to the police and have me arrested.



Hmmm. On a return trip from visiting my family our son was fussing in his car seat, my exgf was in a panic because she cannot deal with stress and her phone battery was dying. She asked to borrow mine so she could play video for our baby. By this time her behaviours were worring me and my only defense was MY cell. (Never give your phone to crazy because you can't call the cops when she's beating the hell out of you, just saying from experience)

She then crawls in the back seat and calls the police (I think ) asking them to drive north in the blinding fog to pull me over and escort her and my son back to the city we just left.

I'm laughing and rolling my eyes and thinking (WOW why am I with this loon) then I get scared and just drive home and drop them both off and drive home vowing to never return. And we were engaged at this point... .



Hmmm... I went to pick my son up after work to give my exgf a break, on the way out of her door she gets on her phone and says, I need an officer here concerning my protection. Oops I gran my phone and call 911, asking an officer to come and then explain the situation to the police. After our standoff I said to the officer things were cool now. Asking my exgf WTH this was all about "I was asking the police to protect myself from me"



She took a picture of my car parked in front of her apartment when I was picking up my son and later said she had proof I was stalking her... .



She accused me of breaking into her internet, wouldn't let that go for many months, said the police and FCC were investigating 

I slashed her tire, tampered with her car, stole her things, abused her, that I got her sister pregnant, that I cheated on her with 1000 others, I had another child on the way, and now but certainly not least I raped her when she overdosed in my apartment. (We were engaged a month after this event. Oh and the rape thing was for her new bfs benifit.

So yes to answer your question she did involve the police or pretended to just to manipulate me.

I have many other situations I could reveal but this only proves how nuts I was in the first place.

Run run run run run run and when your too tired to run, walk walk walk and then crawl crawl crawl

[warhar]

A friend of my exw was involved in a heated argument with her partner.

In desperation he left the room, slamming the door behind him. In an effort to get the last word in, she puts her foot in the door to stop it closing. Foot gets hurt.

Next day she goes off to a doctor and gets an x-ray done. A hairline crack is found on the bone of her little toe.

Four years later and she decides she wants rid of her partner so she takes the x-ray to a magistrate. Magistrate gives the partner 24 hours to vacate the shared home and not to return.

My exw learned a valuable lesson from that. So did I.

No matter how much she taunted me and dared me to hit her, I kept my cool.

[JerryRG]

Agreed warhar

My exgf beat me many times and threw things at me but I was so shocked I just took it and thankfully never returned any punches. She did stand in front of her door so I couldn't leave one time while calling the police (?) I had to grab her shirt and swing her gently away so I could escape, she had a bruise on her shoulder.



Yes and now she's reformed herself and she's happy?

I'm thinking no

[warhar]

You keep posting Jerry - talk that woman out of your system! Nobody needs that kind of behaviour in their life.

[sflearnignbpd]

Mine tried to have me arrested.  I had 6 police storm through my front door one night.  I had to go to the ER in order to avoid county lockup.  She tried to call them again once I got home.

She also begged me to hit her on a few occasions.  She argued that hitting her would be much better than me being mad at her. 

[gotbushels]

Hi guys. Thanks for sharing.

During some of her physical attacks, I would run out, slam the door and hold it closed. I count my blessings nothing happened.

My ex seemed to just be starting out on learning to tell tales to the police. Fortunately, I was prepared. This is a great lesson on how violent BPs are sometimes far better equipped to use law enforcement and lies to manipulate police to fulfil the BP's wishes.