Should I be concerned about future attacks ?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I know my ex showed strong signs of BPD, NPD, and possibly ASPD. We went back and fourth for a bit with attacks towards each other after our breakup. It has now hopefully been settled by lawyers. Out of court thank God! But reading material on NPD, they say if they feel exposed by someone they will never stop at revenge. Is that true? I hope not! I just want to feel safe and whole again. He has physically assaulted me in the past, but I'm more afraid of Internet smearing. But I have a great lawyer that stopped that now, but I'm hoping I scared him off for good. I just fear that maybe he will try again down the road when his life sucks. Because I could bury him if I wanted to, but I don't want to destroy his whole life. I'm hoping despite his illness to realize to just walk away.  He would never regroup and I don't want to do that to him. Even though he may deserve some suffering for all the people he has abused . He needs major therapy before entering a future relationship. I don't want to be responsible for crushing him. He can do that on his own.

[Itstopsnow]

I know my ex showed strong signs of BPD, NPD, and possibly ASPD. We went back and fourth for a bit with attacks towards each other after our breakup. It has now hopefully been settled by lawyers. Out of court thank God! But reading material on NPD, they say if they feel exposed by someone they will never stop at revenge. Is that true? I hope not! I just want to feel safe and whole again. He has physically assaulted me in the past, but I'm more afraid of Internet smearing. But I have a great lawyer that stopped that now, but I'm hoping I scared him off for good. I just fear that maybe he will try again down the road when his life sucks. Because I could bury him if I wanted to, but I don't want to destroy his whole life. I'm hoping despite his illness to realize to just walk away.  He would never regroup and I don't want to do that to him. Even though he may deserve some suffering for all the people he has abused . He needs major therapy before entering a future relationship. I don't want to be responsible for crushing him. He can do that on his own.

[Herodias]

I don't know... .I read they usually go after whomever they are closest to. I told mine I know what he is and I don't deserve to be treated badly after all I did for him. He has left me alone... .Sometimes I felt like mine has all of these traits too, but then again, BPD has allot of the same criteria- mine was much more clingy which ASPD  is not. I wouldn't rule it out though and be careful... .just don't do anything that would put you in danger. I learned the hard way that you need to be very kind and they will be that way back. You don't trust them though... .don't ever trust them. Just play dumb I suppose... .Gray rock as they say (boring as a gray rock). Would it help you to get off the internet? ... .I quit Facebook and all the others. They said it's best when going through a divorce. I don't miss it at all. I can find my stbx's adultery posts through his public pictures... .but I have no real account of my own anymore. I don't want him or anyone else prying into my business.

[Itstopsnow]

I know I want to get off Facebook but can't because I have a business . I need to be  accessible. Mine was very clingly too, and needy. Was head over heels for me... .Or so I thought... But would rage and have bad outbursts and temper tantrums . Very NPD and got physically a little too. ASPD just a little bit. But comorbid  fluctuates at times. So different traits show up for different temperaments.  That's what I tend to think. Because mine was more borderline, but towards the end the other traits came out as he spiraled out.

[Herodias]

Yes, mine too. Very very clingy from the start. I couldn't even talk on the phone without him jumping all over me. As the years went by, he got worse and worse with the behavior... .Very NPD, but that is part of this... .yet he hates himself- which NPD's don't in the same way. He seemed Anti-social when he held guns to me and got all excited when he held me so I couldn't move... .I think that is part of this too. They can be violent and rage. I saw mine have actually stomping his feet tantrums.  Maybe you can change up your business Facebook account, so that it's not easily accessible. Just block him... .he can get a fake account to find you though. What would he do - write on your wall? You could make sure you are able to read all posts before they are posted... .through you settings.