Hello.

[always_growing]

I am new here, and after years of therapy -- and reading this incredible article from the site (https://bpdfamily.com/content/have-your-parents-put-you-risk-psychopathology) -- I have found that I probably need to speak with an anonymous group about the things I am going through so that I stop feeling so "crazy."

Is this is a safe place to do so?

- AG

[Amelia]

Hi there!

I'm a fairly new member but so far I've found this to be a very safe place for that kind of a discussion.

[always_growing]

Thanks, Amelia.

I've actually read a few of your posts and found that you and I are going through some of the same things with an uBPD mother.

I unfortunately allowed my mom to see my child due to extreme FOG, and now I am here looking for the best ways to help rewind the damage that was done to my child.

Really hard for me to find the words to even speak about what's going on. Hopefully I can, but I am slowly going to come out of the fear box, and it's a very, very large box.

Thanks for posting the treads you have. It's given me the insight to know that saying no is okay. I have to grow the spine to do that.

[Rock Chick]

Is this is a safe place to do so?

It is most def. a safe place. I been a member for so many months now and have found that this place is not only a safe place but a very helpful and supportive place full of a lot of really great ppl.

[P.F.Change]

Welcome, Rock Chick! 

I can't say what feels safe for you, but personally I'd wager this is probably the safest internet message board out there. We all work hard to offer constructive support, and there is a hardworking team of moderators keeping an eye on things, too. We post anonymously and don't share identifying information such as real names or locations.

That article had some eye-openers for me, too. Some of it felt a little discouraging at times. The good news is we get to choose how we respond to the challenges of our upbringing. There is a Survivor's Guide in the right-hand margin that many of us use as a guidepost to see how much we really can grow.

When you feel ready to share more, we'll be happy to listen.

Wishing you peace,

PF