Husband is being treated for BPD

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I am in a 14 year relationship with my husband, 6 of which have been as a married couple. I love him but I have realized I can't live with him anymore. It's very painful, but I have become very anxious, depressed and angry after all the constant drama. I catch him lying to me and trying to manipulate me even though he's in therapy. My apartment isn't ready until August but I'm not sure I can stay. How do I deal with this? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time!

[Kitchen Patrol]

I am in a 14 year relationship with my husband, 6 of which have been as a married couple. I love him but I have realized I can't live with him anymore. It's very painful, but I have become very anxious, depressed and angry after all the constant drama. I catch him lying to me and trying to manipulate me even though he's in therapy. My apartment isn't ready until August but I'm not sure I can stay. How do I deal with this? I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time!

[Turkish]

Hi KP,

It siunds like you've taken clear steps to seperate. Is there a divorce in process? If it's final to you (and not just a seperation while he's in therapy, does he know this?

Turkish

[Mutt]

Hi Kitchen Patrol,



I'm sorry you're going through this. I can see how sad, emotionally distressing and exhausting all of this would feel when it feels impossible to live with a loved one that suffers from BPD.

Have you both gone to marriage counseling? Do you have your own therapist through this stressful period? It helps to talk to a T ( therapist ) concurrently with support group. Many of pur members can relate with divorcing a HCP ,  BPD (  High Conflict Personality) and can offer you guidance and support. I'm glad that you joined us. It helps to talk. Hang in there.


Mutt