It's over...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

It's over

It's done

My heart is one

I've finally released my heart

I let her go

I've found someone else

Who's much more fun

Someone I can always trust

Someone funny and nice and especially kind

Someone giving, and loyal and generous

Grateful, mature and hard working

Someone I can talk to who listens without judgement

Someone fair and understanding

A wondeful person and I don't know how I never knew before

I'm in love

This person will never leave me

And this is something I know

Because

This person

Is

Me... .

I never knew accepting myself unconditionally

Loving myself unconditionally

Could

Ever

Feel

So

Right

And

So

Good.

Thank you God

For revealing this to me

No more saving anyone

I'm just going to love them,

Like I love myself.

[JerryRG]

It's over

It's done

My heart is one

I've finally released my heart

I let her go

I've found someone else

Who's much more fun

Someone I can always trust

Someone funny and nice and especially kind

Someone giving, and loyal and generous

Grateful, mature and hard working

Someone I can talk to who listens without judgement

Someone fair and understanding

A wondeful person and I don't know how I never knew before

I'm in love

This person will never leave me

And this is something I know

Because

This person

Is

Me... .

I never knew accepting myself unconditionally

Loving myself unconditionally

Could

Ever

Feel

So

Right

And

So

Good.

Thank you God

For revealing this to me

No more saving anyone

I'm just going to love them,

Like I love myself.

[JerryRG]

I hope I don't sound like a narcissist, the point is I love my life and myself and getting healthier and learning about bounderies. If I love and respect myself I won't let others take advantage of me or get myself in awful relationships.

I'm just loving life right now and I've taken back all the power I gave my exgf, she cannot hurt me because only I have the power to hurt myself. I'm certainly my worst enemy at times.

Took 7 months but it is worth it.

[freemanstrut]

Glad you're feeling well!  Don't second-guess yourself.

[heartandwhole]

Hi JerryRG,

No, you don't sound like a narcissist at all  ! Revel in your newfound self-love—it's what everyone on this planet is looking for. 

The blow of a deep loss can do such a number on our self-esteem; I'm glad you are feeling good about yourself and your life now. Keep on sharing your insights with us—we need and love good news here!

heartandwhole

[Lucky Jim]

If I love and respect myself I won't let others take advantage of me or get myself in awful relationships.

You put that well, JerryRG. 

You could also say that loving yourself means that you will never allow yourself to be the victim of someone else's verbal or physical abuse.  It also means that you will eschew self-destructive behavior.  It's a great starting point.  Don't forget to include self-acceptance, just the way you are.

LuckyJim

[JerryRG]

Thanks everyone

Life is what we make it.

I'm still growing up and I'm so excited that I have the opportunity to be involved here in these forums and AA and Alanon and Church.

It's never too late to change the road you're on

Each day presents me with unique opportunity to grow and learn, make choices and hope my character defects will be removed. God didn't ask us to be better, He asked us to be like Him, perfect!

That is my goal, I know I won't achieve it here on earth but none the less I'm called to be my best, and concidering what I've been given how can I now try?