why call the police

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

Do others have experience of your exBpd calling the police on you at the end simply for asking to talk to them?

No threats or even nasty words.

All i did was try to contact her after she split me black asking for an explanation, tell her i cared about her, missed her and hoped we could speak, or at the very least end things in a civil adult manner.

i Got no reply at all, she went to the police and accused me of harassing her.

Even the police officer commented that he had seen the messages and there was not even 1 threat or nasty comment made by myself and he didnt think it was normal behaviour.

If i knew someone i claimed to care for was hurting, the last thing i would do is want to hurt them even more by doing something like that. I wouldnt be able to live with myself doing such a cruel thing to anyone just asking for an answer or a little closure at least.

i would need to at least 'try' and make them feel a bit better & hurt less, not humiliate them and cause even more pain.

I am really struggling with this and wonder if others have had this happen to them?.

[leew2110]

Do others have experience of your exBpd calling the police on you at the end simply for asking to talk to them?

No threats or even nasty words.

All i did was try to contact her after she split me black asking for an explanation, tell her i cared about her, missed her and hoped we could speak, or at the very least end things in a civil adult manner.

i Got no reply at all, she went to the police and accused me of harassing her.

Even the police officer commented that he had seen the messages and there was not even 1 threat or nasty comment made by myself and he didnt think it was normal behaviour.

If i knew someone i claimed to care for was hurting, the last thing i would do is want to hurt them even more by doing something like that. I wouldnt be able to live with myself doing such a cruel thing to anyone just asking for an answer or a little closure at least.

i would need to at least 'try' and make them feel a bit better & hurt less, not humiliate them and cause even more pain.

I am really struggling with this and wonder if others have had this happen to them?.

[JerryRG]

Hey leew2110

I went to pick my son up one day at my exgfs apartment and on the way out the door she called someone, she then asks for an officer to come to her for protection. I immediately called the police myself thinking she's pulling something to protect myself. After maybe 5 minutes of explaining she hangs up. I tell the police she's done and ask her why she called them. She says she called them for protection from herself.

Yes, run, run far away... .

[Herodias]

Mine threatened to file a harassment charge on me when I asked him to change banks that he was depositing money into. He filed a harassment charge on someone he called "the stalker" when we split up. I am not sure she really was or not... .I know I was not harassing him. I guess it's the liking drama part of them.

[Rayban]

My exBPDgf admitted driving past my house several times and sometimes park out front. I would also meet her unexpectedly at places where I would hang out. She would accuse me of stalking herr. I think calling the police is simple PROJECTION.

It's also another way to claim victim status, and get attention.   

[JerryRG]

Yeah, my exgf did everything and blamed me for what she did, the stalking thing is a good example. She knew where I was and who I was with all the time. Yes my exgf is a victim but our police know her history so they don't buy it any longer.

[Chelsea 69]

Oh yes went though that for same thing she called the saying I was harassing her ... was asking the same question as you no threat just wanted to know what I did so wrong for the way I been treated  ...   I've stop trying to find  out the reason after finding this site plain and simple she already had replacement in place so trying to stay in contact with her was getting in the way  ... .

[JerryRG]

My exgf is such a compulsive liar I just don't listen to anything she says, I picked my son up today and she went on and on about her health concerns and she never really looked me in the eye while ranting. I just laugh inside knowing she's full of c*** and she's not fooling me again.

It is so empowering to be detached from her and her crazy behaviours and it took a lot of work and pain to get here. She's comfortable in her misery and she can have it.

I tried my best to help her, she don't want to change. Not my monkey, not my circus.

[GreenEyedMonster]

My ex threatened to take legal action against me for attending a board game party that we were both invited to because this was clearly me "stalking" him.

Yes, run.    Run,  run,  run . . .

[JerryRG]

Lol GreenEyedMonster

My exgf used to text me at work and threaten to have me arrested if I didn't take my son at 12 each day. This was when we were in a relationship... .YES RUN RUN RUN 

[sweet tooth]

Probably for a few reasons:

-Control/manipulation: The action gives a false sense of power, not only over the victim but over the police department, too.

-Attention: He/she not only gets YOUR attention, but the attention of several men in uniform

-Playing the victim: The police have to come rescue him/her from the monster (you)

-Revenge: "You harmed me. Now you will pay."

Please not that it has absolutely nothing to do with justice, respect for police officers, or due process.

[Rayban]

Probably for a few reasons:

-Control/manipulation: The action gives a false sense of power, not only over the victim but over the police department, too.

-Attention: He/she not only gets YOUR attention, but the attention of several men in uniform

-Playing the victim: The police have to come rescue him/her from the monster (you)

-Revenge: "You harmed me. Now you will pay."

Please not that it has absolutely nothing to do with justice, respect for police officers, or due process.

Thats's scary @sweet tooth. I'm reading this, and I know she is capable of doing such  things. Just another reason to add to my list of reasons to stay away from her.

[sweet tooth]

Smart thinking.

[Rickybee]

@Lee... same story here, what you explained is how mine acted, police? I was shocked even more if that was possible at the time

[leew2110]

she never even replies once oe asked me to leave her alone first... nothing at all... .just went straight to the police.

it really messes with my head that she done that