I can't do this anymore. Our whirlwind romance hasnt even lasted 3 months but I feel emotionally drained. He went into hospital yesterday and I haven't heard from him since. I should probably expect contact when he's feeling better and I love him but I can't do this
I don't understand how last week when we were together it was so perfect and now I am being pushed away, replaced.
I honestly feel suicidal, I wasvalresdy vulnerable now all my hope and belief has gone
I feel such an idiot
Hey Raspberry,
At the three month mark I was also coldly and suddenly discarded out of nowhere. One day we were doing great, the next (literally) it is over without any warning. It was like getting hit by a bus. Our relationship started 3 years ago, almost to the day. Ours was also a whirlwind romance, feelings developed very quickly. This is something that commonly occurs in these types of relationships. The idealization, the adoration, the feeling of being so special to someone else puts us on a pedestal so high we can't see the ground anymore. When we get pushed off that pedestal our psyche is shattered into a million pieces and we desperately try to put it back together by holding on to that person who put us there.
The pain from that first discard and what came in the weeks following that still weigh heavy on my heart. The red flags were flown by her right from the start of our relationship but I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt ... .I choose to believe in her and to have hope. In spite of all the good times we shared together after the first discard I know now I should have walked away at that point instead of holding on, and I wish I had had the strength to do it. It takes a strong person to say enough is enough even when it hurts. You should be commended for the strength you are showing here.
I was also vulnerable and I held onto hope and belief in her, but everything changed under the surface after that first discard. It was the beginning of the end which came 23 months later when I was thrown away like a piece of trash after having been replaced months before. It destroyed me and I can honestly say I have never been in such a low place in my life as I was in the months following that final discard.
You are not an idiot for believing in love, for having hope and trusting in someone who made you feel like you were the most special person in the world. It cuts us to the core to lose that and the pain from the loss is unimaginable. It will get better though even if you can't see anything clearly right now. Believe in yourself and your strength to get through this.
How are you feeling today?
