Blocking/Online Monitoring

[sweet tooth]

So my ex blocked me on MeetUp but has secretly been monitoring me on LinkedIn for months. Mind you, my profile never changes. Why visibly block me on one outlet and go private on another and monitor me? Isn't that a conflict of interest... .?

[GreenEyedMonster]

Mine does the exact same thing.  I am blocked everywhere he was smart enough to think of, but he watches me closely.  For a while the stalking happened 2-3 times each day.  He keeps track of my physical whereabouts and who I see on Meetup, but has me blocked on that site and on Facebook and who knows where else.  He has threatened me with restraining orders on multiple occasions, once just for looking at him in a public place that he went to in full knowledge and acceptance that I would be there.  I don't even have to speak to him to make him mad, or even go near him.

He gave up stalking me for a bit and I was relieved, but now in the past few days he has started doing it again.  People wonder why I watch him, as if I'm not over him or something, but that's not the case.  That relationship is dead and cold in the ground as far as I'm concerned.  I watch him because he is so incredibly self-referential that everything I do is seen as some sort of commentary on him.  He seems to think I'm not over him.  If I do something like accidentally showing up where he is, or where he works, disaster will ensue.  That is not an accident I can afford to have.  Literally.

[sweet tooth]

Mine does the exact same thing.  I am blocked everywhere he was smart enough to think of, but he watches me closely.  For a while the stalking happened 2-3 times each day.  He keeps track of my physical whereabouts and who I see on Meetup, but has me blocked on that site and on Facebook and who knows where else.  He has threatened me with restraining orders on multiple occasions, once just for looking at him in a public place that he went to in full knowledge and acceptance that I would be there.  I don't even have to speak to him to make him mad, or even go near him.

He gave up stalking me for a bit and I was relieved, but now in the past few days he has started doing it again.  People wonder why I watch him, as if I'm not over him or something, but that's not the case.  That relationship is dead and cold in the ground as far as I'm concerned.  I watch him because he is so incredibly self-referential that everything I do is seen as some sort of commentary on him.  He seems to think I'm not over him.  If I do something like accidentally showing up where he is, or where he works, disaster will ensue.  That is not an accident I can afford to have.  Literally.

That is highly discouraging.  How does he track you on MeetUp if he blocked you? My friend said my ex has TWO MeetUp accounts for some reason. I haven't seen either one, but how knows? Maybe she has a third one that's secret or something. I wouldn't put it past her. I'm kind of afraid she's going to try to pull he crap that your ex pulled on you with these MeetUps.

[GreenEyedMonster]

You can't really fully block someone on Meetup -- at least that I know of.

The groups I'm in require that you have a clear head shot as your profile picture and they don't encourage aliases.  Since we're in the same groups, I can of course see him.  You can't block it so that you don't see someone else's RSVPs -- and you wouldn't want to, because then you could unwittingly show up at an event with your ex.  He seems to just lurk and watch what I do, and hasn't used it so far to do anything malicious to me.  He seems to think that I am some kind of psycho, so he needs to watch me, which is his primary purpose in lurking it seems.  I just try to be really careful because even the tiniest things I do, like innocently RSVPing for a party at the home of a mutual friend, can be seen by him as me trying to get closer to him. 

I do often wonder, however, why he has such a fascination with me.  The breakup was 10 months ago and he still checks on me almost every day 

[sweet tooth]

My ex is in some groups with me but I can't see her headshot.

[sweet tooth]

My friend, however, can see her headshot in the groups (for 2 profiles).

[sweet tooth]

I have no idea what's going on this with. Apparently only direct communications can be blocked. However, I can't see my ex in the groups and my friend can. That's bizarre.