Found out I was not the only one

[Confused528]

Just found out last night from a friend of mine that is dating one of the BPD girls friends that while she was with me she had other multiple hook ups in various cities that she would be with when she was on business or vacation.   I sort of suspected this considering the first night we were together she made the statement " I do whatever I want, my hubby doesn't want to know what I am doing"     I am disgusted I even let myself get into this position.    I also do not know why I am seething mad at her right now... .

[Fr4nz]

Just found out last night from a friend of mine that is dating one of the BPD girls friends that while she was with me she had other multiple hook ups in various cities that she would be with when she was on business or vacation.   I sort of suspected this considering the first night we were together she made the statement " I do whatever I want, my hubby doesn't want to know what I am doing"     I am disgusted I even let myself get into this position.    I also do not know why I am seething mad at her right now... .

Look for STDs... .

[Confused528]

Hahah! That is the one thing I am grateful for! We never got busy!  She rented us a suite about a month into our affair.  She started acting like a demeaning b___... .she brought her 8 month old baby to the suite snd didn't tell me until I heard it crying.  She then went psycho when I told her I woukdnt have sex with her and bolted!  It was the weirdest night I ever had and I never saw rage in anyone's eyes like the rage in hers!  I thought she was on drugs I even asked her the next day what the heck she was on and she claimed it was from one glass of wine!  I can still think of the look on her and It scares me

[Fr4nz]

Hahah! That is the one thing I am grateful for! We never got busy!  She rented us a suite about a month into our affair.  She started acting like a demeaning b___... .she brought her 8 month old baby to the suite snd didn't tell me until I heard it crying.  She then went psycho when I told her I woukdnt have sex with her and bolted!  It was the weirdest night I ever had and I never saw rage in anyone's eyes like the rage in hers!  I thought she was on drugs I even asked her the next day what the heck she was on and she claimed it was from one glass of wine!  I can still think of the look on her and It scares me

I'm pretty sure she felt rejected (you denied sex to a BPD! You crazy!  ) and bolted.

Anyhow, I would have felt uncomfortable too with a baby in the same room... .what the hell!

[heartandwhole]

Just found out last night from a friend of mine that is dating one of the BPD girls friends that while she was with me she had other multiple hook ups in various cities that she would be with when she was on business or vacation.   I sort of suspected this considering the first night we were together she made the statement " I do whatever I want, my hubby doesn't want to know what I am doing"     I am disgusted I even let myself get into this position.    I also do not know why I am seething mad at her right now... .

Hi Confused528,

That is some really painful news. I'd feel really crushed and angry. I am not surprised at all that you are "seething mad." You probably feel really betrayed and I think anyone would react that way.

I let myself get into a stupid position with pwBPD (he was supposedly breaking up with his girlfriend at the time), and I'm not proud of it either. Be gentle with yourself, you are human and when the love chemicals hit us, our rational mind takes a long nap. 

heartandwhole