I am living proof that you can get through this

[Chrisbazsky77]

  BPD family,

A year along post exBPDh and it feels incredible to finally be free from any emotional negative residue that had been left behind!

1. Make the choice to detach and stick to it, no matter how difficult.

2. Vent as much as you can here and to someone you can trust that will not use that information to pass judgement or alter their interactions with you.

3. Encourage yourself by reminding yourself of the good you attempted in the r/s.

4. Make a concious effort to resolve the issues that you fell short in within the r/s. Eg codependency, lack of healthy boundaries

5. Never allow depression to set in. Keep going. Force yourself to go to work. Get out of that bed! By the 3rd or 4th day, you will start to feel better and stronger and it will become easier to do.

6. Remind yourself that love is a beautiful aspect of being human and there is hope for that again.

I have been extremely successful career wise since the divorce, took lessons like kickboxing, I never would've if still with ex, focused on inner demons and amped myself toward daily healing, travelled, been closer to family and friends, met an amazing person who completely understands as his gf was BPD too. We moved countries to be together:-) and are ecstatic for the next chapter in our lives.

Thank you to the bpdfamily site.

The road to recovery was not possible if it weren't for the incredible lessons, advisors( especially Once Removed- I really value every word spoken in wisdom and gentleness!), the members who bravely share their experiences in the hopes of encouraging others, the sponsors that keep the site going and to the ones who brought us here- I have learned invaluable knowledge to be able to carry out healthier relationships with people in general.

I wish every dear heart here today that's battling,distressed, confused and hopeless, all the peace, security, wisdom, strength and most of all, I wish you all LOVE.

[Dhand77]

Thanks Chrisbazsky,

Post like this make me smile.

[atomic popsicles]

Oh, thank you for posting!

[seenr]

Thanks for posting your advice and it gives me hope for the future :-)

Appreciate it.