so am i really breaking up with someone with BPD?
Obviously none of us know the ins and outs of your relationship with this woman. You mentioned she was uncertain and indecisive about your relationship. That could be an indicator that she isn't able to form intimate relationships with people, but based on that one detail we can't determine whether or not she's BPD. What are her relationships like with her family and friends, ex's? Was she ever depressed, did she ever shower you with praise and then soon after insult you? Is her history filled with tumultuous relationships and lots of drama? Does her lifestyle and behavior seem chaotic and disordered?
My best advice would be to do lots of research on BPD, it's traits, it's symptoms and how it manifests in intimate relationships. Do more research if you're really interested in understanding what BPD is. Otherwise, it sounds like you're fairly at peace with the breakup, maybe there's nothing more to read into it.