My son's mother picked up our son tonight, I'm so angry

[JerryRG]

Not sure why but just seeing my son's mother makes my skin crawl and sometimes I just hate her.

I know it's wrong but I've hated the way she treated me and the way she treated our son and herself for so long now.

She's pretending to be someone she's not again, so fake, such an illusion.

She text me tonight and just had to tell me she had the flu for a few days, honey I don't care if you're dying .

I am tired and need a break from her, how's about 60 years? Yeah that would be just fine. God help us.

[seenr]

Hi Jerry

With my son I pick him up at his Mum's house all the time. She was putting on an air of everything being so good and life being great up until last week. She seemed down last week and I was reasonably happy but this past week she was angry at me all the time. She had sent some communication my way indicating the finality of the relationship being over and I accepted it. It wasas though because I did not 'try harder' she seemed to explode with anger.

I feel very sad, not angry. This woman has put us through so much. My son then talks when I am with him about 'mammy very sad' and 'mammy's friend'. It starts my mind racing is she telling him she is sad or crying in front of him or does she have a new man. He is only 3 I fear for him so much. I want to give him the best life possible.

I know I am her third ex at least where she ended the relationship and then claimed the other person didnt want it enough or that they ended it.

Frustrating, sad, why do people behave like this.

[heartandwhole]

I don't think it's wrong at all to feel angry, JerryRG. Anger is not good or bad, it just *is*.  I can understand your feelings. I can't stand it when I perceive people being fake, especially when it's for the benefit of "outsiders."

What helps when you are feeling this way, JerryRG?

heartandwhole

[JerryRG]

I like to be around my family for support, I need to journal and pray. My exgf is BPD and narcissistic and I don't want anything to do with her. Her life is all about manipulation, control, hurting people, lying, being sick, being lazy, and entitlement.

Now that the fog has cleared I look at her and realize what she's done to me, my son and her family and other guys and I'm extremely disgusted. I long for the day I know longer need to deal with her on any level.

A friend of mine said reproducing with her I could have ended up with a Jeffrey Dalmer type kid. That scared the h*** out of me when I realized how my son could somehow develope her traits or brain functioning.

[JerryRG]

I guess I'm angry that I had my son for 14 days while she pretended to be sick again and now she's got him back. Spoiled my serenity knowing she's still around.

[seenr]

Hey Jerry

I just spent a lovely weekend with my boy. I dropped him home tonight and his mum started shouting at me. What was my crime?

I said nothing. I want my boy tonot hear bad language or foul mouthed tirades when I drop him home. So I say nothing. And that makes her angry. Just like everything to date has made her angry.

I know how you feel today.