A quote my ex liked. "Sometimes you must self-destruct in order to self-discover

[Indifferent28]

The quote is the title... .

"Sometimes you must self-destruct in order to self-discover"
she has no idea she is BPD.
Claims she is happy with her behavior, as in partying, drinking, hanging out with people she never
imagined she'd be hanging out with.

Then goes and likes that quote.

I don't get that at all.

[JerryRG]

Hey Indifferent28

Your one fatal flaw in asking why pwBPD do or say things?

There is no rational in an irrational mind, just glimpses of reason so we hang onto hope they will change.

I gave up asking why after 4 years of study, I'm not qualified and neither is the best minds in psychology. If they can't figure them out I sure as heck will never understand.

I seen a picture on fb the other day, guy standing facing a brick wall just talking up a storm, caption said, "this is about the most meaningful conversation you will have with a person with BPD"

Yep

[once removed]

there are two interpretations to such a quote, i think.

1. validation of ones lifestyle
2. the idea that sometimes one must hit bottom in order to climb out. probably not a good idea to consciously pursue self destruction in order to self discover, though.

so what can you do with this information Indifferent28? how does it impact your detaching process?

[Beach_Babe]

      

[WishIKnew82]

Funny cause mine would say that for total different reasons. He would claim I had to give up this false persona (nice and good person) and really go very low by not knowing who I was anymore so I could grow. I was fighting the growth by defending myself and saying that it wasn't a false persona. I had to look myself in the soul and know I was a terrible person which would be a very unsafe place to be so I could discover the real me and grow from there. So destructing the false persona (nice and good person) so I could discover the real me (terrible hellish person) and I could grow from there to be a stable better person.

Oh the mindf*cks.

[Indifferent28]

Wow, thats another way to look at it.
It'd be totally believable if that is how their mind sees it too

[ICantFixHer]

The "self destruct to self discover" thing sounds like something a teenager would say after listening to Jim Morrison and The Doors.

My exBPDgf's favorite saying was: "My sorrow is so wide I cannot see across it and so deep I shall never reach the bottom of it."

It used to tug at my heartstrings but now it makes me want to say, "So what; my sorrow runs deep, too. Get over it."

[Wize]

There is no rational in an irrational mind, just glimpses of reason so we hang onto hope they will change.

My stbx BPD wife is a lawyer.  I assure you, she knows how to be rational.

[JerryRG]

Lol, Powel

That's going to be my favorite saying to my exgf, "get over it!"

Immaturity = they are the center of the universe.

I used to think my exgf was the center of the galaxy because according to popular scientific belief there exist a black hole at the core of every galaxy.

I cannot come up with a better analogy than my exgf will suck me in with no escape and I'm eternally stretched and pulled deeper forever, nothing escapes a black hole, not even light.

Yep that's her... .

[Sadly]

Mines was " RIDICULOUS" nothing deep or metaphorical about that one. He applied it (in capitals) to everything I did, said or had an opinion about. X

[BorisAcusio]

"The only thing I regret is that I'm not somebody else."

[Indifferent28]

I think her absolute favorite quote was
"It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply"

And she doesnt even know she has BPD.
She always told me she thought she was bipolar.

I think that quote describes a BPD perfectly... .