I feel pretty pathetic with all that reminds me of her. Sometimes something does, and I can't even pinpoint WHY it does... .really too many to count.
I can think i am doing good, but if something triggers me, I go into an emptiness and I restart over again.
Prepare to be triggered. It will happen. It will suck. It will keep happening and continue to suck. And then one day it won't.
For example, we had tickets to the baseball team and we'd go as a family. What am I gonna do, stop going? So now the kids and I and a friend go, or we just leave the one seat empty. And they have a blast and I still get to do something I love. But, the first half dozen times it was murder. The kids were into the game and all I could think about was her. And then I'd get a baby sitter and the guys would go with me and being in the seats wasn't so bad, but getting certain foods would trigger me. Or certain teams would trigger me (long, even more boring stories). But then, one day a few weeks ago, three friends and I went to see the game and she didn't even cross my mind till she called me on my way out of the stadium.
I was triggered on the way to work this morning by a song on the radio. Only this time, it lasted for a few seconds, disappeared, and I listened to the song anyway.
There were days at the beginning where I couldn't go thirty minutes without being triggered and it was crushing. Now, it happens occasionally, and it sucks for a few moments, and then it doesn't. And sometimes, I realize I would have been triggered months ago but I'm not now.
Bottom line is it's ok that you're triggered. Be triggered. Feel all the triggers. Accept the pain. It will stop. Promise.