Hi uniquename,
I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult time. I'd like to echo
Formflier, have you retained a lawyer? We have a legal board, we're not lawyers but the members have experience with the legal system, but talking to a lawyer will give you an idea of what you're up against, it may help with re-assurance with your jobs.
You can look in the phone book for a lawyer and make some calls, most lawyers will give you a free consultation , write down your questions before making the call so that you're prepared and don't forget something important.
It felt like I'm trying to prove he's right - I'm the crazy one.
I'm feeling scared and alone. I've been reading Stop Caretaking this weekend. So on the mark it also freaked me out. Why isn't Caretaking a personality disorder? It seems we fit expected disordered patterns.
Let's take a look at this from another angle? Caretakers have positive qualities, we have compassionate people with caretaking qualities like doctors, nurses, policemen They're good qualities, you can use them differently, like volunteering your time with helping others. I would feel a lot of stress if I was arrested and it may affect my employment, give yourself a break and don"t be hard on yourself.
Therapy appointment this morning. uBPDh contacting me several times yesterday about the very public arrest (we supposedly agree to LC but he has yet to comply). I didn't respond
I would frustrated if the pwBPD in my life was not respecting my boundaries. I'd like to echo
Formflier, we put boundaries on ourselves, we can't control the actions of others, we can only control our own, if uBPDh does X, then I respond with Y. It'll take time but if you keep doing what you're doing now, you'll see that eventually your uBPDh is going to understand that you're not going to respond in low contact. Hang in there.
