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Freetodream_117
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« on: September 06, 2016, 11:29:36 PM »

Hi,
I am new to this site. Been dealing with my mother's BPD for a long time now. It has gotten even worse since my father's death and she refuses to get any help. Sigh. Just looking for a place of refuge and support. I have been reading through all the articles on there for hours and decided to register. I am married and have one little boy. I am currently in grad school for counseling. Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: September 06, 2016, 11:57:54 PM »

Welcome to bpdfamily Freetodream_117

Thanks for introducing yourself to our community. Many of our members (including me) have a BPD parent too and know how very tough this can be.

I am very sorry to hear you lost your dad, my condolences. Did he pass away recently?

Major life events are often difficult, even for non-disordered people. The death of someone close to you can be particularly triggering to someone with BPD since many people with BPD have an intense fear of abandonment. How would you describe the relationship your mother had with your father?

It is very unfortunate that your mother refuses to get help. Do you feel like she has any insight into her problematic behavior? In what ways has she been getting worse since your father's death?

Take care

Kwamina The Board Parrot
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« Reply #2 on: September 07, 2016, 12:25:05 AM »

Hi Freetodream_117,

In addition to The Board Parrot,  I'd like to welcome you to the family 

What BPD traits does your mother exhibit that you have had trouble dealing with,  and how can we help? 

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« Reply #3 on: September 07, 2016, 02:00:40 PM »

Hello Freetodream 
 
Welcome ! And what a beautiful name  :-)

I have a BPD mum and a BPD grandma. I'm a single mum with one great kid. She just turned 8.

Please do not hesitate to ask any question that pops up. All of the members are fantastic  people, who have helped me so much already, and I'm sure they'll do the same for you !

Welcome xx
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