Hello All,
My exBPDgf and I broke up about 4 months ago, and we've been NC ever since. I still hurt occasionally, but I'm doing soo much better. I'm a happier and healthier person.
I'm really glad to hear you're happier and healthier now. It's a great feeling, and I'm looking forward to having that in my life again.
Why is this? Why can't she just leave me alone?
The short answer is probably that she wants your attention. The longer answer is that she may be hoping to rekindle something with you, or that she may simply want to get the satisfaction of knowing her presence will provoke a response in you - good or bad, at least she'll know she's not
nothing to you.
What do I do. My friends don't understand her condition and idk if I can stop it from happening.
Please help
It sounds like it makes you uncomfortable. If you're not in any physical danger from her, then there is nothing you can do other than to find a new social circle, explain the situation to your friends, or continue with your current social circle without explaining and let the chips fall where they may.
If you've been NC this entire time, there's no reason you can't continue that even if she tries to exist in your social realm. It is possible to exist in the same space without interacting with her in a friendly way while not being overtly rude, either. Is that a possibility for you?