Pain but Stronger

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

My best friend died from cancer before 2 months, it was mutual friend and we spend a lot of
good time with him. Guess what, she didnt give a f*ck about that.
She dont even come in the funeral , she continued her life as nothing happen.

She broke up with me and after just 2 weeks found a replacement and put him to sleep in my bed and
continue her life like nothing happen... .

No empathy, clucter B are sociopaths and dangerous.
I believe this and its my opinion

[amunt]

My best friend died from cancer before 2 months, it was mutual friend and we spend a lot of
good time with him. Guess what, she didnt give a f*ck about that.
She dont even come in the funeral , she continued her life as nothing happen.

She broke up with me and after just 2 weeks found a replacement and put him to sleep in my bed and
continue her life like nothing happen... .

No empathy, clucter B are sociopaths and dangerous.
I believe this and its my opinion

[fromheeltoheal]

I'm sorry that happened amunt, losing your best friend and your girlfriend in a short period of time would be very painful, devastating, for anyone.  I'm glad you made it here to share that with us though, you're around people who want the best for you and understand what it's like to be in a relationship with, and have lost a relationship with, someone with a personality disorder.  You haven't told us that much of the rest of your story, and we'd love to hear it, and even though you haven't communicated with your ex in a few months, it's still important to take very good care of yourself and be with supportive people; are you able to do that?

It's also helpful to realize that borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder (sociopathy), while both being Cluster B disorders, are very different from one another, which is why they are separate diagnoses and we can't use them interchangeably.  Borderlines feel everything intensely, and that doesn't feel good, at all, so they use psychological tools, behaviors, replacements, whatever, to not feel, or at least to lessen those emotions, and it's helpful as we detach and grow to look at our exes and their behavior objectively and accurately, which is the most helpful.

SheAskedForaBreak is discussing his relationship in this thread and we want to support him, so can you help all of us and start a thread of your own, telling us more of what happened a few months ago, during that very painful time for you?  That way we can talk about it with you appropriately, as we talk with SheAskedForaBreak here.

Take care of you!

[fromheeltoheal]

amunt response:

In a period of 4 months i have lost the "love of my life", my best friend and my job.
Its like God want to attack me , its like movie and bad dream... .

Anyway i made it, i am still in pain but stronger man now . Thanks for your support

[fromheeltoheal]

In a period of 4 months i have lost the "love of my life", my best friend and my job.
Its like God want to attack me , its like movie and bad dream... .

That is a lot to deal with amunt.  Maybe God had a purpose, a reason, and maybe he won't give us anything we can't handle?

Anyway i made it, i am still in pain but stronger man now . Thanks for your support

You're welcome.  And yes, us survivors end up stronger as a result of these relationships.  Can you tell us more about the pain you're dealing with now, specifically, as you work through it?

[amunt]

I am trying to improve myself, i am going to the gym everyday and i do kickboxing training and sparring 3 times a week.
Also i read books, want to improve mentally and physically. Both

This is my aim, want to prove that i can made it and be better than before

I have new friends now , tryin to find new connections because i lost many friends dyring the relationship with
this girl.  I am starting my life from zero, lost almost everything from my past life and start to built my new character
mentally stronger and wiser after all this

Really hope noone found himself in similar situation , its so hard and i really cant believe that i made it and i am still here fighting 

[amunt]

Forget to tell you that my friend who died would be our groomsman in engagement with my ex
 and he also planed to become engaged in June with a very nice and good girl :/

The first week i broke up with my ex borderline i was everyday in his home for support until they
found he had cancer in the brain. The only symptom was numbness in his hand and he died within 3 months :/

Its like a bad joke all that, just 5 months before me with my friend and our girls planned our engagements.

The drama dont stop here, a month before i learned my ex is pregnant and already engaged with my replacement

All that can make a good dramatic movie in hollywood, its so crazy

[fromheeltoheal]

I am trying to improve myself, i am going to the gym everyday and i do kickboxing training and sparring 3 times a week.
Also i read books, want to improve mentally and physically. Both

This is my aim, want to prove that i can made it and be better than before

I am starting my life from zero, lost almost everything from my past life and start to built my new character
mentally stronger and wiser after all this

Those are good goals amunt.  One good thing about starting from zero is the only way to go is up, and we can create any kind of life we want for ourselves, and you can use all the energy of the emotions as motivation, channeling it in a way that supports you and your future, which is what you're doing.

Forget to tell you that my friend who died would be our groomsman in engagement with my ex
 and he also planed to become engaged in June with a very nice and good girl :/

The first week i broke up with my ex borderline i was everyday in his home for support until they
found he had cancer in the brain. The only symptom was numbness in his hand and he died within 3 months :/

Its like a bad joke all that, just 5 months before me with my friend and our girls planned our engagements.

The drama dont stop here, a month before i learned my ex is pregnant and already engaged with my replacement

You've been through a lot in a short time, very difficult when we felt our life was on a great path and everything falls apart.  I'm sorry about your friend, that must have been very difficult.  You've got some anger still, a normal part of grieving and processing and it will pass, kickboxing is a great way to burn that energy up, and it's also good to take very good care of yourself right now, eating right, sleeping enough, keeping stress to a minimum; are you focusing on those things too?

[amunt]

eating right, sleeping enough, keeping stress to a minimum; are you focusing on those things too?

Yes, my motivation is great right now.
All of my anger and pain going to motivation and work hard

Thanks for your support brother, i will be fine dont worry