Howdy folks not been on here for a while but thought i would give a brief update of my circ's
(please forgive my spelling etc)
so i got married to my undiagnosed partner of 3 yrs in 2014 august... .it went downhill quickly from there (we married after she begged me to stay with her after finding out she had slept with the married man she had been messaging for most of those previous 3 yrs and when earlier confronted both of them denied any spark between them and i should 'lighten up' as they were just friends)anyhoo after getting wed she started on suicide threats to control who i could see in my friends circle and like a fool i put on the white knight armour and was going to be the best partner she had ever had (not like those previous nasty controlling evil ex's... .she deserves the best of me... .
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so onto feb 2015 and boom after a 2 week drink and legal high binge on her part she tells me to leave 'her house'... so i did and after much research decided that this was it for me and no contact was the best option... i had a few things to sort with her and asked a old friend of both of us to be 'middle woman' so to speak so as to avoid any more conflict... .my wife hated that claiming i should grow up and talk to her direct... so after offers from her to be 'friends' which i rebuffed and got more suicide threats for doing so i went full NC all was going well until a birthday card arrived in april with the usual i love you b/s in it and like a fool i responded very plainly with 'thank you for the card' this then seemed to invite the full on love bomb sms text thing and the cry of 'i know i'm unwell but promise to get medical help if you come back and help me'... .
yep i fell for it went to the docs with her the doc told her she must stop drinking and would refer her to mental health team... yaaaay progress... .oh oh out side the docs she stated she cannot give up drinking and have her crutch taken away... .boo progress thwarted but she would go to the mental health team as planned yaaaaaay progress... .she went a month later on her own for half an hour and returned stating she did not have Bpd but relationship issues... .can you hear the alarm going off? i couldnt
she had also bought books on Bpd joined forums etc and embraced the idea as she could see all the symptoms that she had suffered for most of her adult life... .yaaaaay progress... .then after her very short M/H appointment that all changed but by then i had moved back in with her... .oh oh can we see whats coming folks? again i couldnt and to be fair she seemed more mindfull until Xmas 2015 when she made plans to become a nurse (3 yr uni course she's 44 yrs of age with a 7 yr old daughter who's not mine but the 'lazy good for nothing liar' who came before me) so i said go for it i'll support you... .(trying to fill the empty hole in the bottom bucket by now) anyway over the coming months she realised she could not become a nurse and her anger slowly got worse and worse and no amount of soothing from me made it better
then came the accusations of me cheating on her (i never go out on my own but my job can keep me out until 7pm some nights but i work in sewers and drains so not exactly dressed for romance)
then a week after my birthday i get a text whilst she's at work saying she wants me out again... .where do i go? and she ahd said to me when i had left before she wanted me to stay and show her i wouldnt just walk away... .so i did and she stayed at her mums for 6 weeks only to send the police round at 6.30am one tuesday morning on false charges of mental abuse against her
i'm still 4 months later still on bail whilst the police go through my mobile phone and laptop (it's a very slow process over here)
SO TO THOSE OF YOU THINKING WHAT IF I... .? take this as a warning of what may happen if you try again
all this from a person who 7 days earlier had called me the love of her life the one her soulmate etc etc
