Re: BPD SPOUSE

[lind67]

My BPD spouse and I have separated after a major blow up on labor day and I been gone almost 4 days and I get ugly texts  blaming me for everything and threats of divorcing me every other day is this normal ,that I never loved her and that I was never her friend  and just blames me for every dam thing under the sun and never nice,and I also I think she is already seeing someone this is driving me crazy. is this how it works?

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[ArleighBurke]

If you spouse hass BPD, then yes - they will blame you for everything! This is part of their coping mechanism.

Tell us more about your situation:
Is your spouse officially diagnosed? In therapy?
How do YOU think you are managing living with a BPD partner?
How long have you been married?... .

[ArleighBurke]

No she is a therapist herself and she has refuse meds , she just blames everything on everyone else. It is driving me crazy and Im depressed all the time

A BPD as a therapist - that makes my skin crawl... .!

The first priority in living with a BPD is taking care of yourself. It sounds like your mental state isn't great. This is normally because you are too enmeshed with her. Her world is chaotic - that doesn't need to be your world.

How are you Validation conversation skills?
Do you socialise or have non-work time without her?

[lind67]

Me and my BPD wife separated after a big blowup and she demanded that I leave and I found a place with a year lease and Before I signed a lease ,I asked her was she sure about this but she still demanded I leave and so I left 2 weeks later we are talking and came over spend the night and got mad because I have a place and told me I already moved on,and but when I left she wanted the keys to the house and contacted the landlord and told him I was not there anymore and wanted a lease in her name, and changed the name on all the utilities but Im to blame,is this some type of mind game.