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Margot Meissner
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« on: October 20, 2016, 08:19:42 AM »

Hi
Another third break up
Not aware until doing research that this older man, 70 most likely has never been diagnosed with BPD I believe he is a quiet borderline BPD
Have been with him for four years never lived with himhe has created significant confusion and hurt
Any suggestions
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« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2016, 08:27:00 AM »

Hello,

I sure can I understand that confusion and hurt!

What makes you think he suffers from BPD?  I think the first step for you here is to learn about the disorder and the challenges you will face if you are to continue with this relationship.  Reading other peoples stories will help you gain some perspective.

To that end I encourage you to check out the articles found in the right side bar ------->

Please feel comfortable asking any questions and sharing more of your story.  It helps to bring some clarity when you write it all out.   Smiling (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #2 on: October 21, 2016, 09:41:54 AM »

Quiet borderline behaviors can be really confusing!

After you two split up the last two times, who reached out first? How did the two of you repair things before?
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