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« on: October 23, 2016, 12:35:59 PM »

My ex just sent me a message stating that the grandmother of her boss died today, stating she felt obligated to let me know and asked me to send a card to her home address.

Just to elaborate a bit more, I'm working on a big project for that boss, which I started months ago together with my ex. We have been in NC (except for about 6 msg's I sent which I didn't get any reply to) for about 3 weeks now and now this?

The message is :
"I feel it's a bit of my duty to inform you that ***'s grandmother died this afternoon. If you can, maybe send her a card to her home address, addressdetails"

How can I reply in the most neutral way?
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« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2016, 01:46:03 PM »

Couldn't wait any longer, just sent "Truely appreciated, thank you" Nothing more, nothing less.

But what strikes me the most is the fact that she would let me know about this, I'm not related and only have a professional relationship with her boss. And on a sunday evening when she's at home and get's the news she is thinking of informing me? The one she painted black and discarded and is keeping on strict NC?

This is driving me nuts ... .
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« Reply #2 on: November 02, 2016, 03:01:23 PM »

You're being baited.  Don't do it.  If you think it appropriate to send a card you can do that without any communication with your ex.  There's no need to acknowledge any message your ex sends you.
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