She just asked for a divorce...

[NewStart]

Well, guess my being firm, positive and establishing boundaries backfired... .she just asked for a divorce... .hahahaha... .doh... .

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[BowlOfPetunias]

BPDs sometimes threaten divorce because it "feels right" in the moment, but then take it back once their fear of abandonment kicks back in or they paint you back to white.

[NewStart]

BowlOfPetunias,

I've been in a devaluation phase for so long that writing has been on the wall... .I have just refused to read it... .she has been on a major smear campaign for the past couple of months as well to friends, neighbors, co-workers and her family that the odds of this coming back around now... .well she's painted me so black that I'm afraid she put herself in a spot now that she can't come back... .

Combined feeling right now of sick with a tinge of relief... .this is going to be tough