Hi Lostandshattered,
I am so sorry that is a lot for any one person to go through, much less experience it multiple times. How old is your daughter?
Dealing with the legal threats while trying to hold your family together and trying to come to grips with a loved one's mental illness is something I know well. It is the kind of nightmare I would not wish on anyone. People in legal field and law enforcement do not understand mental illness, is my takeaway, least of all a personality disorder.
What are the behaviors that have led to your daughter's extended stays in acute facilities? Is she in protective custody within those facilities? Are you in contact with her?
I imagine you feel your entire world is dependent on you and what you do. It's a huge burden to carry, and can feel so lonely.
We're here to walk with you, Lostandshattered.
My daughter is 15 soon to be 16. Her stays are extended due to her saying she is suicidal, depressed, hearing voices (this had been found to be untrue multiple times besides just in facilities), self harming outside and while in facility care, negative attention seeking, making allegations, habitual lying, attempting to create inappropriate relationships inside and outside of care facilities and home with both peers and staff. This is the first time protective custody has been in place. I can have contact with her but finding it hard for multiple reasons (my emotions, her manipulation, and her not ever talking to me and when she does there is very little truth in what she says). She was also diagnosed with ODD, depression, anxiety. I have mental health and physical health issues as well and all of this is taking its toll on me. It is an emotional Rollercoaster ride I don't want to be on.