I wonder, has anyone else had this problem with their BPD? When I began to seriously get involved with my BPD wife, she began trying to separate me from every woman I know. Every woman was a threat. She even told me: I don't trust any man or any woman. When I asked why, she said all men cheat and women will try and steal your man. Of course I later figured out this was projection as she herself had had affairs with married men. But believing this, led to constant anger tantrums whenever I had contact of any kind with other women. My best friends' wives were especially a problem. Even strangers on the street could be a threat if I even acted like I looked at them. This early warning sign should have been a clue about the disorder. But I just chalked it up to simple jealousy rather than fear driven parinoia. No amount of explanation or reinforcement would change her thinking. I dreaded when I saw any woman I knew. None of these were ex-lovers or real threats. Just borderline abandonment fears coming out in full bloom.
My ex was jealous of all people, not just other men. He didn't even want me visiting my Mom. He never said anything but always seemed unhappy if I visited her and said I made her more important then him. I didn't but looking back now I should have. As least she didn't abandon me.
