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FallBack!Monster
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Skipped work today. Spent the larger part of the day watching videos created by WwBPD. Tried to find dept and understand the physics. Found that they themselves can't define their own actions. The negative feelings they purposely inflict on us, is conscious behavior. Although it is done with the intentions of inflicting pain on themselves. They do learn from experience but nothing healthy. They have learned, if they behave badly the partnership will probably end so they do whatever possible to ensure abandoned, therefore inflicting pain on themselves. Make sense?
Found that they all used the words "was in love with my partner" but speaking about all ex partners as if all one in the same. Matter of fact. Nothing about the partnership, the partner or life with the partner. Nons know when we mess up with someone or a few special ones. "The one that got away". They Refer to an ex as if their talking about favorite old cars. Matter of facf. No dept. No regrets, no feelings, unless describing their disorders and other comorbid conditions. Another obviously similarity, all were externally beautiful most had sexy full lips If anyone really wants to know if their ex misses them, watch videos created by pwBPD and you'll get all your answers. It is really all about them and their condition or disorder. Nothing /no one gets treated with as much attention as they dedicate to their own feelings. Push family away too not just partners. The degree of emptiness is what I found peculiar.
One video especially was more helpful. All were, but this one explained how she would talk younger than actual age... 8 yrs old. but never knew it until exhusband and Dr pointed it out then became aware so were able to control it from there on. Another spoke about going to work wearing a suit but inside felt like a child actor playing the part of a working woman. She wasn't aware of her disorder hen. Fired from many jobs. She would be considered a low functioning BPD, according to experts.
Videos better explained the purpose of counseling for such incurable disorder. To become self aware and learn to manage everyday life for the pwBPD. The pwBPD is never going to change. Only learns to recognize and accept, maybe manage social behavior. Nothing more.
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Hi NoGd4rs
Thank you for sharing.
Did you learn anything interesting from the videos?
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Are you sure these videos are something to apply to all of our exes? If so then that is sad :c. Especially for the people in the saving and improving board.
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Quote from: SoMadSoSad on November 11, 2016, 11:09:52 AM
Are you sure these videos are something to apply to all of our exes? If so then that is sad :c. Especially for the people in the saving and improving board.
Not implying anything. Comments are about & directed at views of the videos, paired with what most who been through it. Not to be taken as expert opinion but observational.
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Lol nice disclaimer.
Did you learn anything particularly interesting about the disorder or about yourself NoGd4rs?
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