Update

[Depression = 72% of members]

Guys I'm doing a lot better now. I'm seeing things a lot more clearly. So I have information that ties into everything I've read on the boards. I have found out that my ex's mother, the ex's best friend and a guy got in her ear and got to her to break up with me. This guy however I've found out is my replacement. My ex wants to be single and do her thing. She used the letters she gave me to hold me off until her possible return. Also, I have information that she will make a weak attempt around the holidays to try and reach out and around Valentines Day she will try to get back with me. I'm curious what has your guys' experience been like when you've rejected you're ex BPD when they tried to come back? From all the information I have this lines up exactly how many of you have said in your stories. I'm finding out I'm the one she will try to come back to until she is bored and want to test the waters again. She has no idea I have this information and I'm fortunate that I can prepare myself. I think all the things she's done such as the threat of a restraining order and telling people I know she wants nothing to do with me is to keep me away from knowing what real happening. She is smart and is using her disorder as an excuse. Time to ball ball ladies and gentalmen!

[Willis002]

Guys I'm doing a lot better now. I'm seeing things a lot more clearly. So I have information that ties into everything I've read on the boards. I have found out that my ex's mother, the ex's best friend and a guy got in her ear and got to her to break up with me. This guy however I've found out is my replacement. My ex wants to be single and do her thing. She used the letters she gave me to hold me off until her possible return. Also, I have information that she will make a weak attempt around the holidays to try and reach out and around Valentines Day she will try to get back with me. I'm curious what has your guys' experience been like when you've rejected you're ex BPD when they tried to come back? From all the information I have this lines up exactly how many of you have said in your stories. I'm finding out I'm the one she will try to come back to until she is bored and want to test the waters again. She has no idea I have this information and I'm fortunate that I can prepare myself. I think all the things she's done such as the threat of a restraining order and telling people I know she wants nothing to do with me is to keep me away from knowing what real happening. She is smart and is using her disorder as an excuse. Time to ball ball ladies and gentalmen!

[SoMadSoSad]

So what are you going to do now and what are you going to do when she comes back. And how would you feel if she suddenly started to become exclusive to someone else?

[Willis002]

I'm pissed over this whole situation. I'm not depressed anymore. I'm probably going to tel her no and that she has a lot of nerve contacting me after all this time. To show she cares after months of torture. She can go hope onto anyones lap at this point. I'm just curious about how they deal with rejection. Would it cause her to get more desperate? I'm asking solely to prepare myself for whatever situation might come up, because winter is coming and I need to be ready.

[SoMadSoSad]

Isnt the best thing to do is block all avenues of contact so that she cant contact you? Unless you have ulterior motives.

[Willis002]

I want to have a conversation and then close the door. I'm curious because I've heard some BPD have become extremely desperate and have literally been sitting at their ex's doorsteps