BPD R/S Relapse

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

 I feel like an addict returning to a 12 step group after another failed experiment in managing his addiction. Not too worry ... .relapse is part of recovery. I didn't go as far down the rabbit hole this time. I bouncing back easier. I have tools from the last healing.

 Yep ... .Noli found himself with another uBPD: a waife this time. The last was a queen / witch ... .much more dangerous.

 Same pattern ... .different channel. Same pull: rescuing. Same fear: Abandonment. Same attachment style: Avoidant.

 The end came suddenly with a text miscommunication. Today I'm grateful for it - saved me from digging a deeper hole - the hand of God.

 Still painful. Love hurts. I know I have grieving ahead.

 This is helping me right now: Metta Meditation

https://vimeo.com/52819182

 I may post more down the road.

[nolisan]

 I feel like an addict returning to a 12 step group after another failed experiment in managing his addiction. Not too worry ... .relapse is part of recovery. I didn't go as far down the rabbit hole this time. I bouncing back easier. I have tools from the last healing.

 Yep ... .Noli found himself with another uBPD: a waife this time. The last was a queen / witch ... .much more dangerous.

 Same pattern ... .different channel. Same pull: rescuing. Same fear: Abandonment. Same attachment style: Avoidant.

 The end came suddenly with a text miscommunication. Today I'm grateful for it - saved me from digging a deeper hole - the hand of God.

 Still painful. Love hurts. I know I have grieving ahead.

 This is helping me right now: Metta Meditation

https://vimeo.com/52819182

 I may post more down the road.

[rfriesen]

Hi Noli,

Sorry to hear you had another painful experience. Good that you're more self-aware and feeling stronger about bouncing back this time.

Can you tell us a little more about what makes you say she was uBPD? What happened in the relationship?