I genuinely feel i will never hear from my BPD again - she has painted me black in such a way / ended things sadistically and ive seen before with how she has treated previous "best friends" they have also been painted black and then just discarded.
Same, exw is a people cutter. Did it at age 18, dumped her parents/family/best friend of yrs. and all social activities. After 9 yrs. contact was re-established (help of a 3rd party) with her parents. In her diary she is full of disgust about her upbringing,
Friends. Same, after a 30+ yrs. mutual friends of a 25-30 yrs. were dumped like garbage when exw broke up.
Again, finding desperately a new social setting as exw was within a short time was spit out in our small village after her real self was exposed.
I do hope my BPD is full of shame for what she has done to me and how she ended things so brutally
Don’t put your money on that
BPD is indeed a shame based disorder but…
In order to justify all for herself remind yourself, feeling becomes facts, so
= you were never loved, ‘I just needed you to be there!’
= the r/s was nothing at all, just a necessity, just unfulfilling
= you never supported her or failed on many occasions
= you hurt her feeling every time again and so immense, so beyond believe
= you were aggressive and even not normal and just an embarrassing person
= etc.
That is (part) of those justifications told all over this Board.
That is the reason why it is justified in heir minds.
That exw 2 (twice) refused my hand as a goodbye (never said goodbye to her parents either…)
You know why? Exw only… ‘left temporarily’… for her rest… up to today she can’t get the word ‘divorce’ out, nor said goodbye.
What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly tangled in the spiders web.