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margie
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« on: December 08, 2016, 01:05:41 PM »

i am interested in talking with others who were raised by a single mom with BPD, i am a married mother of four who hasn't talked to my mother in over a year. we haven officially severed ties but i feel it is headed that way
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« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2016, 01:46:08 PM »

Hello margie! Welcome

I am glad you found us and it will be just a matter of time before you meet other members in a situation resembling your own. In the meantime, I hope you will read around the site some more and discover other threads that will help you already. In addition, there are a lot of good resources that you can start using right away ----> the banner on the right here on this page is a good place to start.

If you haven't been in touch with your mother in over a year, you must have reason. Are you protecting yourself, your children, your peace of mind, something else? Would you like to tell us a little more about your relationship with your mother? Perhaps the last time you did speak to her and how that was? 

How do you feel about about officially severing all ties? Is that something you want or do you hope to find a way to avoid it?

I know you will find the same calm and wisdom and caring that I did when I came to the site. We are all here for each other, margie. 
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« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2016, 08:10:09 AM »

Hi margie

I would like to join VitaminC in welcoming you here

You are interested in talking to others who were raised by a BPD mom, in particular a single mom with BPD. I think you've definitely come to the right place for that. We have many members with a BPD mother, in some cases a single BPD mom. I for instance was also raised by a single BPD mom and know how very difficult that can be.

You haven't talked to your mother in over a year. Did anything specific happen that caused this period of no contact or was it more like the culmination of everything that you've been through with her?

Could you tell us a bit more about your mother's behaviors that you find most troubling or difficult to deal with? Has you mother perhaps been officially diagnosed with BPD and/or any other disorder?

Take care,

The Board Parrot
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« Reply #3 on: December 10, 2016, 03:39:07 PM »

Hello Margie  


I too was raised by a BPDmum. I had a father too, but that didn't help much  ;-)

I am a single mum with one daughter, she's 8. We don't have a lot of contact with my daughter's grandparents, they are not really interested. If there is contact, like last week, it's because my child contacts grandma, not the other way around.
I have found that not having a lot of contact works best for me - although is was not really my decision but my parents'. I have simply stopped to try fitting into their lives, and I guess they had noticed that I did not want to be part of the dysfunction anymore. So as the contact was quite low already, it slowed down to pretty much nothing.

Is it your decision to not be in contact with your mum ?
Do you know your father ?

Hope to hear from you soon !
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