Hi LadyBug,
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I have not broached the subject of diagnosis with him. It really doesn't matter if you slap a name on it or not, I guess, the bigger thing is for me to know how better to interact with him
This is a very good viewpoint from which to deal with your situation. Good to see you have an understanding that knowing how to better interact and communicate is the only path you can control. To the right of this page you will see some tools and lessons that can help guide you in this process. Combining a good understanding of the illness and its nuances and some new communication techniques have helped some here improve their situation.
Was I just blindsided by the honeymoon phase? Charmed by him and his exciting unpredictable ways?
It's certainly possible, the dopamine in our systems during the "honeymoon" phase can allow us to overlook things we would normally see. Another thought is that he was on his "best behavior" and may have subconsciously been in control somewhat... .until he was triggered. Doesn't matter at this point, the traits exhibited are there to be dealt with.
Have you thought about seeing a therapist to help guide you in this process?
What specific types of behavior has he shown that you are struggling with the most? Do you think he may be willing to enter into therapy... .either together or individually?
You've found a great place for knowledge, understanding and sharing. Feel free to share any thoughts, feelings or questions anytime. We are here.