Trying to restore communication with my partner

[Denton.]

Hello, I've been in a relationship with a lady who shows all the signs of BPD . I'M the first guy in year's to be realy let in to her world, according to her son.  Everything was going good, although i knew within day's, that she was sensitive, ie- if she felt that you weren't listening to her, her pain was obvious, as we deepend the relationship, i could feel her panic! She was shared of herself running from the relationship, then she stopped all contact after somthing most people would discuss! I've tried to put it right! But not realising it was better to back off, have made it worse.  I need help in trying to get through the wall, i know through her son, that she really wanted our relationship to succeed! And had started to make plan's for the first time in year's! I need advice in what to do.

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I've tried to put it right! But not realizing it was better to back off, have made it worse.

Can you give the details - a place to start?