My partner of 14 years just left for California.

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I have been living and walking on eggshells most of my 14 year relationship with my partner.
I am 74.  We own a house together.  Two months ago  He left to drive to LA and gave me a note and five minutes notice.
Except for details of selling the house (per a previous written agreement) he has invoked "no contact."  I get it now and won't try any more to get in touch.
I am now in individual therapy and starting a DBT group.
I am co-dependent, child of an alcoholic, divorced once and widowed once.
I still love my partner but I need so much help because he is not good for me and clearly I do not have skills to deal with him now that I want to have higher standards in how I am treated.  I need support to start getting clarity about myself and my life.
Thanks.

[Ynnig]

I have been living and walking on eggshells most of my 14 year relationship with my partner.
I am 74.  We own a house together.  Two months ago  He left to drive to LA and gave me a note and five minutes notice.
Except for details of selling the house (per a previous written agreement) he has invoked "no contact."  I get it now and won't try any more to get in touch.
I am now in individual therapy and starting a DBT group.
I am co-dependent, child of an alcoholic, divorced once and widowed once.
I still love my partner but I need so much help because he is not good for me and clearly I do not have skills to deal with him now that I want to have higher standards in how I am treated.  I need support to start getting clarity about myself and my life.
Thanks.

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[drained1996]

Hi Ynng,



Sorry to hear about your difficult circumstances, but we are glad you found us.  We are hear to help support, heal, and grow.  Having something like you experienced happen is very traumatic and would bring anyone down a good bit.  It's good to see you are taking steps to get yourself help, and that you want to be introspective in gaining understanding about life.  Feel free to post any thoughts, feelings or questions.  We are here to walk with you.