Refusing medications

[kiwigirl]

Morning!
My husband has been recently diagnosed with BPD & after a an extremely awful cycle weaning off a antidepressant that wasn't helping, as decided he feels good & would rather not start his new antidepressant.  I've tried my best to explain how his cycle works & that I'm very scared & unprepared for when the low cycle comes around. He hasn't seen his specialist yet as they are yet to return from xmas holidays.
Any recommendations or advice on how to gently explain to him?.

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[Naughty Nibbler]

Hi KiwiGirl:
   
If his prior antidepressant didn't help, and then he had an extremely awful time weaning off of it, I can see his hesitation to start another med.

What did you observe, while he was on the other med?  :)id he have low cycles while taking it?  Is it possible that the process of weaning off the prior med wasn't slow enough?

It can be hard to convince people to take meds for mental illnesses.  Many meds have side effects, some of which are temporary, and others that exist to some degree as long as you take a med.  Also, some people tend to not realize when a med works, but the people around them can.

Maybe it is best to get the help of his specialist.  One thing you can do is to track his behavior/moods on a daily basis.  There are some apps that you can use that can make it easy and give you charts and graphs.