I'm newly in a relationship with someone with BPD.

[SC]

Hi,

I'm newly in a relationship with someone with BPD.
And suggestions are helpful... .

Thanks

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[Five28]

Run like hell? Haha. Just kidding. But seriously, know that this is something that does not go away and does not get better. As far as I know all you can do is learn to adapt and try to minimize the triggers that set the BPD person off. If I knew what BPD was before I got married I would have chosen someone else as my life partner. I'm not a fan of drama in my life but if you are with a BPD that comes with the territory.

[Echo87]

I actually laughed out loud at the last poster's suggestion to run... .
It's not an easy road by any means. Educate yourself on the disorder, read every article, blog and book you can get your hands on. An informed decision is a smart one.

[bananas2]

I would suggest reading this excellent article about what it takes to be in a relationship with someone with BPD. https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship